부부간 대화와 ‘사랑하는 내 남편에게’
Communication between wife and husband, and to my dear husband
대화수단에는 말(Language),행동(Action) 등이 있습니다.
말 수단으로만 대화를 할 수도 있고
행동(Action) 수단으로만 대화를 할 수 있고
때로는 말과 행동 두 가지 수단으로 대화를 할 수 있습니다..
아무 말도 하지 않고 정숙한 시간을 갖는 것도 일종의 대화 수단 중 하나입니다.
대화 중 귀를 기울이고 열심히 듣기만 하는 것도 일종의 대화 수단입니다.
부인이나 남편이 좋아하는 음식물을 요리해 서로 주고 먹는 것도 일종의 대화 수단입니다.
부인이나 남편이 음식물을 사서 서로 같이 먹는 것도 일종의 대화 수단입니다.
한 송이 장미꽃을 보내거나 12송이 장미꽃을 보내고, 생일날을 기억했다가 카드나 선물을 보내고, 결혼 기념일에 카드나 선물을 보내는 행동 역시 일종의 대화의 수단입니다.
사람들은 서로 만나면 웃고 악수하고 허그한다. 이것도 일종의 대화 수단입니다.
소리 내어 웃고 눈길 접촉으로 서로 사랑하고 어깨에 손을 살짝 올려 신체적 접촉을 적절히 해 사랑하는 것도 하나의 행동 대화 수단입니다.
사랑하는 부부가 서로 가까이 앉아 포옹하고 키스하고 손으로 만지고 사랑하는 것도 일종의 몸짓 대화 수단입니다.
악수 할 때 상대방의 손을 꼭 쥐는 여성도 있고 손을 잡지도 않고 활짝 열린 손바닥으로 악수를 하는 여성도 있습니다.
손이 부스러질 정도로 꽉 잡고 악수하는 남성도 있다. 악수가 끝나자마자 바로 끼어 안고 허그하는 여성도 있고 남성도 있습니다.
이러한 악수도 허그도 일종의 신체적 대화입니다.
한 번 받은 여성의 좋은 눈길을 평생 동안 잊지 못할 수 있습니다.
이런 눈길 접촉도 대화 수단 중 하나입니다.
이런 모든 행동 대화 수단이 몇천 마디의 아름다운 말보다도 훨씬 더 강력한 영향을 부부관계에도 주고 우리들의 일상생활의 삶에 영향을 줄 수 있습니다.
자녀들을 키울 때 부모들은 말로 ‘I LOVE YOU(나는 너를 사랑한다)’라는 말을 자주 하는 것을 잊지 말아야 합니다.
또한 안아 주고 허그하고 어깨에 손을 살짝 올려놓는 등 적절한 신체적 접촉으로 사랑해 주고, 아름답고 사랑스러운 눈길 접촉으로 그들을 자주 사랑해 줘야 합니다.
역시 부부 간에도 그런 사랑이 자주 필요합니다.
어떤 부부들은 이렇게 아내나 남편 또 자녀들을 자연스럽게 사랑할 수 있습니다.
어떤 부부들은 아내나 남편, 또 자녀들, 그리고 다른 사람들에게 좋은 눈길접촉 사랑이나 신체적 접촉으로 사랑을 해 줄 줄 모릅니다.
그런 부부들은 서로 사랑하는 법을 배워야 합니다.
부부가 서로 부부 사랑하는 법, 부모가 자녀를 사랑하는 법, 또 남들을 사랑하는 법을 배워야 합니다.
우리 모두는 남을 사랑할 수 있는 본성을 가지고 태어납니다.
의식적으로 좋은 눈길을 남에게 주는 눈길 접촉하는 방법을 배워야 합니다.
적절한 신체적 접촉으로 배우자, 애인, 자식, 또는 다른 사람을 사랑하는 법을 배워야 합니다.
사랑하는 방법을 배우지 않고, 자연적으로 사랑을 많이 받고 부부생활이 행복하고 원활하게 잘되기를 기다려서는 안 됩니다.
올림픽 게임에서 금메달을 받는 선수는 피눈물 나는 연습과 훈련을 했습니다.
부부는 서로 조건 없이 진정으로 사랑하는 법을 배워야 합니다.
아가서 강해(The Song of Solomon)에 이런 사랑 구절이 있습니다.
“내게 입맞추기를 원하니 네 사랑이 포도주보다 나음이로구나.”
“내 사랑아, 너는 어여쁘고 어여쁘다. 네 눈이 비둘기 같구나.”
“나는 샤론의 수선화요 골짜기 백합화로구나.”
“나의 사랑하는 자는 내게 속하였고 나는 그에게 속하였고…….”
“내 사랑 너는 어여쁘고도 어여쁘다…….”
“네 입술에서 꿀방울이 떨어지고 내 혀 밑에는 꿀과 젖이 있고…….”
“사랑아, 네가 어찌 그리 아름다운지, 어찌 그리 화창한지 쾌락하게 하는구나.”
“네 입은 좋은 포도주 같을 것이니라…….”
아가서 강해에 있는 사랑 대화 구절의 일부입니다.
이런 아름다운 사랑을 서로 전달할 수 있는 구절을 부부 간에 자주 글로 말로 신체 언어로 표현하면서 대화하면 부부 결혼생활은 원만해질 것입니다.
짝사랑, 상련, 이별, 실연, 강제결혼에 대한 반항, 사랑의 찬미, 결혼 후 긴 이별, 부부 이별과 버림받음, 혼례의 묘사 등이 사랑에 관한 글이 시경에도 있습니다.
희로애락이 우리 인간 부부 간에 있기 마련입니다. 이러한 희로애락을 사랑의 대화를 통해서 풀어가야 합니다.
즐거움과 슬픔, 좋은 일과 나쁜 일을 부부 간 대화를 통해서 이해하고 용서하고 받아들이면서 부부생활을 해야 합니다.
이런 이유로 “원만한 부부생활을 유지하기 위해 중요한 것 중 섹스가 가장 중요하지 않고 대화”라고 합니다.
일주일에는 8,540분이 있습니다.
그중 총 210분 동안 섹스한다고 가정할 수 있습니다. 그러나 부부의 적극적인 대화를 하는 시간이 훨씬 더 많을 것입니다.
사실은 부부 섹스는 가장 즐거운 대화 수단의 일종이라고 합니다.
어느 때든지 이별을 하고 별거생활을 하고 이혼을 하겠다는 마음으로 부부가 산다면 그 결혼이 어떻게 성공적으로 이루어질 것인가요.
결혼 약속과 공약은 소꿉장난을 하는 어린아이들의 약속이 아닙니다.
요즘 무책임한 사람들이 하는 약속으로 생각해서는 안 됩니다.
결혼 생활 중 생기는 문제를 부부 스스로 대화를 통해 풀 수 없으면 전문가의 카운슬링을 받아야 합니다.
대화 수단 중 행동 수단이 있습니다.
부부간 러브 메이킹도 행동 대화 수단의 일종이라고 이미 설명했습니다.
남편이 부인한테, 부인이 남편한테 침실로 들어가 “러브 메이킹을 하자”는 말 대신 “침실로 들어가 대화하자”라고 말한다는 말도 있습니다. 랑하는 내 남편 당신에게“
사랑하는 당신에게!
우리 둘은 이렇게 서로 사랑하면서 행복하게 살게 해 주세요.
당신을 사랑한다고 나에게 자주 말해 주시고 키스해 주시고 나를 꼭 허그해 주시고 눈길로 나를 사랑해 주세요.
당신은 “나를 사랑한다.”고 말도 하지 않고, 나를 꼭 껴안아 주지도 않고, 허그해 주지도 않고, 나에게 키스도 해 주지 않으면서 나는 어떻게 당신이 나를 진정으로 사랑해 주는 줄 알 수 있나요?
때로는 당신이 나를 정말로 사랑하시고 계신지 당신을 의심해 봅니다.
“당신을 사랑한다.” 라고 저에게 자주 말해 주세요.
키스도 해 주시고 나를 꼭 허그해 주시고 눈길로 나를 많이 사랑해 주세요.
당신이 나에게 필요해 내가 황당해 보일지라도, 때로는 당신이 주는 진정한 사랑을 그대로 받아들이지 않더라도 당신은 그 대로 받아들이지 마시옵소서.
“당신을 사랑한다.”는 말을 자주 많이 많이 해 주세요.
그리고 나를 많이 허그해 주세요.
나를 힘껏 껴안고 많이 키스해 주세요.
내가 하는 일이 당신에게 어색하게 보일지라도, 당신의 맘에 들지 않아도 “잘 했다”라고 칭찬해 주세요.
내가 한 일이 잘못됐다고 꾸지람을 치지 마시고 멸시하지 마시고 잘못된 점을 고쳐주시고 잘하도록 격려해 주세요.
잘한 행동은 긍정적으로 칭찬해 주세요.
내가 실패했더라도 나를 확신시키고 건전한 자신감을 갖도록 격려해 주세요.
내가 당신을 위해 모든 것을 다 해 주는 것이 당연하다고 생각하지 마세요.
내가 어떤 일들을 확실히 하기 위해 반복할 때는 감사하고 긍정적으로 강화해 주세요.
당신이 외로울 때나 마음이 아플 때는 나에게 알려 주세요.
나도 당신을 위안해 줄게요.
내가 당신을 위안할 수 있는 능력이 있다고 생각할 때 나는 정신적으로 육체적으로 더 강해집니다.
우리에게 생긴 어떤 감정적 문제든, 분노든 대화를 통해서 표출하지 않고 해결하지 않으면 우리의 결혼생활은 순탄치 않고 파괴될 수 있습니다.
기억하세요.
내가 당신을 조건 없이 진정으로 사랑하고 있을지라도 당신의 마음속 깊이 간직한 생각과 느낌이나 스트레스, 분노 모든 것을 내가 항상 알 수 없습니다.
당신에게 기쁜 생각과 감정이 있으면 나에게 말씀해 주세요.
내가 당신의 마음속 깊이 간직한 좋고 나쁜 것을 잘 해결해 들이면 우리 둘의 부부생활에 활력소가 생길 것입니다.
생일날이나 그 어느 날 우리 둘의 개인적인 날을 축하하는 것이 얼마나 경이로운지 모릅니다.
아무 이유도 없이 사랑의 선물을 주고받을 때도, 나를 사랑한다는 당신의 말을 들을 때도 우리의 결혼생활에 활력이 넘칩니다.
만일 내가 나를 위해 어떤 것을 보고 느꼈다면 그것은 나의 경험이고 또한 나에게 중요하고 사실입니다.
나의 말을 쉽게 판단하고 선입감으로 그 말을 듣지 마세요.
잘 새겨 듣는 것이나 바로 보는 것은 상당히 중요한 부부의 대화입니다.
우리 둘 사이에 결혼생활에도 변화가 당연히 옵니다.
우리는 서로 돕고 있다고 계속 생각합니다.
나를 손으로 어루 만져주시고 나를 붙들어주시고 나를 허그해 주세요.
너를 사랑한다는 말도 중요하지만, 비언어적 의사소통으로 나를 신체 접촉 사랑으로 사랑해 주시면 원기가 북돋아 옵니다.
내가 때로는 말을 하지 않고 조용히 있을 때도 나를 존중해 주세요.
나의 문제를 해결하기 위해 영적 시간이 필요할 때는 때로는 나에게 조용한 순간이 필요합니다.
다른 사람들이 내가 가치 있는 인간이라고 이해하도록 도와주세요.
사람들이 우리 둘이 서로 이렇게 사랑하고 있다는 것을 알면 나는 특별한 존재가 될 수 있고 자랑스럽게 느낍니다.
우리 둘의 결혼생활이 행복하다는 것을 다른 사람들과 나누어 가질 때 참말로 기쁩니다.
사랑하는 부부 간에 의식적으로 이러한 생각들을 매일매일 하면서 사랑을 하지도 않고 자연적으로 진정한 부부사랑이 잘 이루어진다고 생각하는 것은 잘못입니다.
그중, 건전한 부부의 사랑과 부부 간 건전한 대화는 그 가정의 주춧돌입니다. 출처 및 참조문헌
Loving each other. by Leo Buscaglia, Ph.D
BIBLE
How to really love your child
How to love really your teenager
소아가정간호백과–부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다, 이상원
The Johns Hopkins Hospital, The Harriet Lane Handbook, 18th& 19th edition
Red book 29th edition 2012
Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics, 19th Edition
Infectious Diseases of Children, Saul Krugman, Samuel L Katz, Ann A. Gerhon, Catherine Wilfert
제22권 아들 딸 이렇게 키우세요 참조문헌 및 출처
Emergency Care Transportation of Sick and Injured American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons
Emergency Pediatrics: A Guide to Ambulatory Care, Roger M. Barkin, Peter Rosen
Gray’s Anatomy
Ambulatory Pediatrics, Green and Haggerty, Saunders
Introduction to Clinical Pediatrics, Smith and Marshall, W.B. Saunders Co
School Health: A Guide for Health Professionals, American Academy of Pediatrics
Goodman and Gilman’s The Pharmacological Basis of Therapeutics
Bible
How to Really Love Your Child, Ross Campbell
Good Behavior Stephen W. Garber, Ph.D. and others
Kids who follow, Kids who don’t
Loving Each Other Leo F Buscaglia, Ph, D.
진정한 자녀 사랑 나비게이터
10대 아들 딸 이렇게 사랑해 키워라 이상원 역
소아과학 대한교과서
의학 용어사전 대한 의사 협회
그 외
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Communication Between Husband and Wife, and “To My Dear Husband”
Methods of communication include language (words) and actions.
One can communicate solely through words,
solely through actions,
or sometimes through a combination of both words and actions.
Sharing a quiet, peaceful moment without uttering a single word is, in itself, a form of communication.
Simply lending an ear and listening intently during a conversation is also a form of communication.
Cooking a favorite dish for one’s spouse—whether wife or husband—and sharing that meal together is another form of communication.
Buying food to share and enjoy together is likewise a form of communication.
Sending a single rose or a dozen roses; remembering a birthday and sending a card or gift; or exchanging cards and gifts on a wedding anniversary—these actions, too, serve as forms of communication.
When people meet, they often smile, shake hands, and embrace. These gestures, too, constitute a form of communication.
Laughing aloud together, exchanging loving glances, or gently placing a hand on a shoulder to engage in appropriate physical contact—these are all forms of communication through action.
For a loving couple, sitting close together to embrace, kiss, and touch affectionately represents a form of non-verbal, physical communication.
When shaking hands, some women grasp the other person’s hand firmly, while others offer an open palm without fully engaging their grip.
Conversely, some men shake hands with such force that it feels as though they might crush the other person’s hand. Furthermore, immediately after a handshake concludes, some individuals—both men and women—will move in to embrace one another. Both a handshake and a hug constitute a form of physical dialogue.
A woman may never forget a kind glance she once received—remembering it for the rest of her life.
Such eye contact, too, serves as a means of communication.
All these behavioral forms of communication can exert a far more powerful influence on marital relationships—and on our daily lives in general—than thousands of beautiful words ever could.
When raising children, parents must never forget to frequently express their love verbally by saying, “I love you.”
Furthermore, they should demonstrate their love through appropriate physical contact—such as hugging or gently placing a hand on a child’s shoulder—and by frequently offering them beautiful, affectionate eye contact.
Indeed, this same kind of love is frequently needed between spouses as well.
Some couples are naturally able to express their love for their spouses and children in this way.
Other couples, however, do not know how to show love to their spouses, children, or others through affectionate eye contact or physical touch.
Such couples must learn how to love one another.
Spouses must learn how to love each other; parents must learn how to love their children; and we must all learn how to love others.
We are all born with an innate nature that enables us to love others.
We must consciously learn the art of making eye contact—specifically, how to offer a kind and benevolent gaze to those around us.
We must learn how to express our love for our spouses, partners, children, or others through appropriate physical touch.
One cannot simply wait to naturally receive an abundance of love—hoping for a happy and harmonious marital life—without first making the effort to learn *how* to love.
After all, an athlete who wins a gold medal at the Olympic Games has endured grueling practice and training—shedding “tears of blood” in the process. Husbands and wives must learn to love one another truly and unconditionally.
In the *Commentary on the Song of Solomon*, there are verses expressing such love:
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine.”
“My darling, you are beautiful, so very beautiful; your eyes are like doves.”
“I am the rose of Sharon, the lily of the valleys.”
“My beloved is mine and I am his…”
“My darling, you are beautiful, so very beautiful…”
“Your lips drip with honey; honey and milk are under your tongue…”
“Oh, how beautiful you are, my love! How delightful!”
“Your mouth is like the finest wine…”
These are just a few excerpts from the loving dialogue found in the *Commentary on the Song of Solomon*.
If couples frequently express such beautiful love to one another—whether through writing, speech, or body language—their married life will surely become harmonious.
Writings concerning love—covering themes such as unrequited love, mutual affection, separation, heartbreak, resistance to forced marriage, the celebration of love, long-term separation after marriage, marital estrangement and abandonment, and descriptions of wedding ceremonies—can also be found in the *Book of Songs* (Shijing).
Methods of communication include language (words) and actions.
One can communicate solely through words,
solely through actions,
or sometimes through a combination of both words and actions.
Sharing a quiet, peaceful moment without uttering a single word is, in itself, a form of communication.
Simply lending an ear and listening intently during a conversation is also a form of communication.
Cooking a favorite dish for one’s spouse—whether wife or husband—and sharing that meal together is another form of communication.
Buying food to share and enjoy together is likewise a form of communication.
Sending a single rose or a dozen roses; remembering a birthday and sending a card or gift; or exchanging cards and gifts on a wedding anniversary—these actions, too, serve as forms of communication.
When people meet, they often smile, shake hands, and embrace. These gestures, too, constitute a form of communication.
Laughing aloud together, exchanging loving glances, or gently placing a hand on a shoulder to engage in appropriate physical contact—these are all forms of communication through action.
For a loving couple, sitting close together to embrace, kiss, and touch affectionately represents a form of non-verbal, physical communication.
When shaking hands, some women grasp the other person’s hand firmly, while others offer an open palm without fully engaging their grip.
Conversely, some men shake hands with such force that it feels as though they might crush the other person’s hand. Furthermore, immediately after a handshake concludes, some individuals—both men and women—will move in to embrace one another. Both a handshake and a hug constitute a form of physical dialogue.
A woman may never forget a kind glance she once received—remembering it for the rest of her life.
Such eye contact, too, serves as a means of communication.
All these behavioral forms of communication can exert a far more powerful influence on marital relationships—and on our daily lives in general—than thousands of beautiful words ever could.
When raising children, parents must never forget to frequently express their love verbally by saying, “I love you.”
Furthermore, they should demonstrate their love through appropriate physical contact—such as hugging or gently placing a hand on a child’s shoulder—and by frequently offering them beautiful, affectionate eye contact.
Indeed, this same kind of love is frequently needed between spouses as well.
Some couples are naturally able to express their love for their spouses and children in this way.
Other couples, however, do not know how to show love to their spouses, children, or others through affectionate eye contact or physical touch.
Such couples must learn how to love one another.
Spouses must learn how to love each other; parents must learn how to love their children; and we must all learn how to love others.
We are all born with an innate nature that enables us to love others.
We must consciously learn the art of making eye contact—specifically, how to offer a kind and benevolent gaze to those around us.
We must learn how to express our love for our spouses, partners, children, or others through appropriate physical touch.
One cannot simply wait to naturally receive an abundance of love—hoping for a happy and harmonious marital life—without first making the effort to learn *how* to love.
After all, an athlete who wins a gold medal at the Olympic Games has endured grueling practice and training—shedding “tears of blood” in the process. Husbands and wives must learn to love one another truly and unconditionally.
In the *Commentary on the Song of Solomon*, there are verses expressing such love:
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine.”
“My darling, you are beautiful, so very beautiful; your eyes are like doves.”
“I am the rose of Sharon, the lily of the valleys.”
“My beloved is mine and I am his…”
“My darling, you are beautiful, so very beautiful…”
“Your lips drip with honey; honey and milk are under your tongue…”
“Oh, how beautiful you are, my love! How delightful!”
“Your mouth is like the finest wine…”
These are just a few excerpts from the loving dialogue found in the *Commentary on the Song of Solomon*.
If couples frequently express such beautiful love to one another—whether through writing, speech, or body language—their married life will surely become harmonious.
Writings concerning love—covering themes such as unrequited love, mutual affection, separation, heartbreak, resistance to forced marriage, the celebration of love, long-term separation after marriage, marital estrangement and abandonment, and descriptions of wedding ceremonies—can also be found in the *Book of Songs* (Shijing).
It is only natural for human couples to experience the full spectrum of emotions—joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure. These emotions must be navigated and resolved through the medium of loving dialogue.
Couples should approach their married life by using conversation to foster mutual understanding, forgiveness, and acceptance of both the joys and sorrows—the good times and the bad.
For this very reason, it is often said that among the factors essential for maintaining a harmonious marriage, conversation—not sex—is the single most important element.
There are 8,540 minutes in a week.
Of those, one might assume that a couple spends a total of 210 minutes engaging in sexual intimacy. However, the amount of time a couple spends engaging in active conversation is likely to be far greater.
In fact, sexual intimacy between a couple is itself considered to be one of the most enjoyable forms of communication.
If a couple lives together with the mindset that they could separate, live apart, or divorce at any moment, how can their marriage ever hope to be successful?
Marriage vows and commitments are not merely the promises of children playing make-believe.
Nor should they be viewed as the kind of irresponsible promises so often made by people in today’s society.
If a couple is unable to resolve the issues that arise during their marriage through their own dialogue, they should seek professional counseling.
Among the various means of communication, there is also the medium of action.
As previously explained, lovemaking between a couple is indeed a form of communication expressed through action.
There is even a saying that illustrates this point: rather than simply asking, “Let’s make love,” a husband might invite his wife—or a wife her husband—into the bedroom by saying, “Let’s go into the bedroom and have a conversation.” To You, My Beloved Husband…
To my dearest love!
Please let us continue to live happily together, loving one another just as we do now.
Please tell me often that you love me; kiss me, hold me tight in your arms, and let your eyes convey your love for me.
If you never say, “I love you,” if you never hold me close, never embrace me, and never kiss me—how am I supposed to know if you truly love me?
Sometimes, I find myself doubting whether you really do love me.
Please tell me often: “I love you.”
Please kiss me, hold me tight, and let your eyes speak volumes of your love for me.
Even if I seem bewildered or confused at times—and even if I sometimes fail to fully accept the genuine love you offer—please do not take it personally or hold it against me.
Please say “I love you” often—very, very often.
And please give me lots of hugs.
Hold me tight in your arms and kiss me passionately.
Even if something I do seems awkward to you, or if it doesn’t quite meet your expectations, please praise me by saying, “You did a good job.”
Instead of scolding me or looking down on me when I make a mistake, please gently correct what went wrong and encourage me to do better next time.
Please offer positive praise for the things I do well.
Even when I fail, please reassure me and encourage me to build a healthy sense of self-confidence.
Please do not take it for granted that I will do everything for you.
When I repeat certain actions to ensure they are done correctly, please show your appreciation and offer positive reinforcement.
Whenever you feel lonely or your heart aches, please let me know. Please…
Let me comfort you, too.
When I believe I have the ability to bring you comfort, I feel stronger—both mentally and physically.
No matter what emotional issues or anger may arise between us, if we do not express them and resolve them through open dialogue, our marriage will be anything but smooth; it could even be destroyed.
Please remember this:
Even though I love you truly and unconditionally, I cannot always know every thought, feeling, stress, or anger that you hold deep within your heart.
If you have happy thoughts or feelings, please share them with me.
If I can help you navigate and resolve the things—both good and bad—that you hold deep inside, it will breathe new life and vitality into our marriage.
You cannot imagine how wonderful it feels to celebrate our special days together—whether it is a birthday or any other occasion that is uniquely ours.
Our marriage overflows with vitality when we exchange gifts of love for no particular reason at all, and when I hear you say those words: “I love you.”
If I perceive or feel something in a certain way, that is my personal experience; it is real and important to me.
Please do not be quick to judge my words, nor listen to them through the filter of preconceived notions.
Listening attentively and seeing things clearly are vital elements of communication between a husband and wife.
Naturally, changes will occur within our marriage as we move through life together.
Let us always keep in mind that we are here to support one another.
Please reach out and touch me; hold me close, and give me a hug.
While saying “I love you” is certainly important, expressing your love through non-verbal physical affection—through the language of touch—truly revitalizes my spirit.
Please respect me even during those times when I choose to remain silent and withdrawn.
When I need a moment of spiritual solitude to work through my own issues, sometimes all I need is a quiet moment to myself… It is essential.
Please help others understand that I am a person of worth.
When people realize the depth of love that exists between the two of us, I feel special and filled with pride.
It brings me true joy to share with others the happiness we find in our marriage.
It is a misconception to believe that genuine marital love simply happens naturally—without loving couples consciously cultivating these thoughts and sentiments toward one another on a daily basis.
Among these elements, healthy marital love and healthy communication between spouses serve as the very cornerstone of the family. Sources and References:
* *Loving Each Other*, by Leo Buscaglia, Ph.D.
* The Bible
* *How to Really Love Your Child*
* *How to Really Love Your Teenager*
* *Encyclopedia of Pediatric and Home Nursing: Parents Must Also Become Half-Doctors*, by Lee Sang-won
* *The Harriet Lane Handbook*, 18th & 19th Editions, The Johns Hopkins Hospital
* *Red Book*, 29th Edition (2012)
* *Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics*, 19th Edition
* *Infectious Diseases of Children*, by Saul Krugman, Samuel L. Katz, Ann A. Gershon, and Catherine Wilfert
* Volume 22: *Raising Sons and Daughters: A Guide* (References and Sources)
* *Emergency Care and Transportation of the Sick and Injured*, American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons
* *Emergency Pediatrics: A Guide to Ambulatory Care*, by Roger M. Barkin and Peter Rosen
* *Gray’s Anatomy*
* *Ambulatory Pediatrics*, by Green and Haggerty (Saunders)
* *Introduction to Clinical Pediatrics*, by Smith and Marshall (W.B. Saunders Co.)
* *School Health: A Guide for Health Professionals*, American Academy of Pediatrics
* *Goodman & Gilman’s The Pharmacological Basis of Therapeutics*
* The Bible
* *How to Really Love Your Child*, by Ross Campbell
* *Good Behavior*, by Stephen W. Garber, Ph.D., et al.
* *Kids Who Follow, Kids Who…* Don’t
Loving Each Other — Leo F. Buscaglia, Ph.D.
A Navigator for True Parental Love
Raising Teenagers: How to Love and Guide Your Sons and Daughters — Translated by Lee Sang-won
Pediatrics — Korean Textbook of Pediatrics
Medical Dictionary — Korean Medical Association
Other Resources
Copyright © drleepediatrics.com — February 26, 2026
Couples should approach their married life by using conversation to foster mutual understanding, forgiveness, and acceptance of both the joys and sorrows—the good times and the bad.
For this very reason, it is often said that among the factors essential for maintaining a harmonious marriage, conversation—not sex—is the single most important element.
There are 8,540 minutes in a week.
Of those, one might assume that a couple spends a total of 210 minutes engaging in sexual intimacy. However, the amount of time a couple spends engaging in active conversation is likely to be far greater.
In fact, sexual intimacy between a couple is itself considered to be one of the most enjoyable forms of communication.
If a couple lives together with the mindset that they could separate, live apart, or divorce at any moment, how can their marriage ever hope to be successful?
Marriage vows and commitments are not merely the promises of children playing make-believe.
Nor should they be viewed as the kind of irresponsible promises so often made by people in today’s society.
If a couple is unable to resolve the issues that arise during their marriage through their own dialogue, they should seek professional counseling.
Among the various means of communication, there is also the medium of action.
As previously explained, lovemaking between a couple is indeed a form of communication expressed through action.
There is even a saying that illustrates this point: rather than simply asking, “Let’s make love,” a husband might invite his wife—or a wife her husband—into the bedroom by saying, “Let’s go into the bedroom and have a conversation.” To You, My Beloved Husband…
To my dearest love!
Please let us continue to live happily together, loving one another just as we do now.
Please tell me often that you love me; kiss me, hold me tight in your arms, and let your eyes convey your love for me.
If you never say, “I love you,” if you never hold me close, never embrace me, and never kiss me—how am I supposed to know if you truly love me?
Sometimes, I find myself doubting whether you really do love me.
Please tell me often: “I love you.”
Please kiss me, hold me tight, and let your eyes speak volumes of your love for me.
Even if I seem bewildered or confused at times—and even if I sometimes fail to fully accept the genuine love you offer—please do not take it personally or hold it against me.
Please say “I love you” often—very, very often.
And please give me lots of hugs.
Hold me tight in your arms and kiss me passionately.
Even if something I do seems awkward to you, or if it doesn’t quite meet your expectations, please praise me by saying, “You did a good job.”
Instead of scolding me or looking down on me when I make a mistake, please gently correct what went wrong and encourage me to do better next time.
Please offer positive praise for the things I do well.
Even when I fail, please reassure me and encourage me to build a healthy sense of self-confidence.
Please do not take it for granted that I will do everything for you.
When I repeat certain actions to ensure they are done correctly, please show your appreciation and offer positive reinforcement.
Whenever you feel lonely or your heart aches, please let me know. Please…
Let me comfort you, too.
When I believe I have the ability to bring you comfort, I feel stronger—both mentally and physically.
No matter what emotional issues or anger may arise between us, if we do not express them and resolve them through open dialogue, our marriage will be anything but smooth; it could even be destroyed.
Please remember this:
Even though I love you truly and unconditionally, I cannot always know every thought, feeling, stress, or anger that you hold deep within your heart.
If you have happy thoughts or feelings, please share them with me.
If I can help you navigate and resolve the things—both good and bad—that you hold deep inside, it will breathe new life and vitality into our marriage.
You cannot imagine how wonderful it feels to celebrate our special days together—whether it is a birthday or any other occasion that is uniquely ours.
Our marriage overflows with vitality when we exchange gifts of love for no particular reason at all, and when I hear you say those words: “I love you.”
If I perceive or feel something in a certain way, that is my personal experience; it is real and important to me.
Please do not be quick to judge my words, nor listen to them through the filter of preconceived notions.
Listening attentively and seeing things clearly are vital elements of communication between a husband and wife.
Naturally, changes will occur within our marriage as we move through life together.
Let us always keep in mind that we are here to support one another.
Please reach out and touch me; hold me close, and give me a hug.
While saying “I love you” is certainly important, expressing your love through non-verbal physical affection—through the language of touch—truly revitalizes my spirit.
Please respect me even during those times when I choose to remain silent and withdrawn.
When I need a moment of spiritual solitude to work through my own issues, sometimes all I need is a quiet moment to myself… It is essential.
Please help others understand that I am a person of worth.
When people realize the depth of love that exists between the two of us, I feel special and filled with pride.
It brings me true joy to share with others the happiness we find in our marriage.
It is a misconception to believe that genuine marital love simply happens naturally—without loving couples consciously cultivating these thoughts and sentiments toward one another on a daily basis.
Among these elements, healthy marital love and healthy communication between spouses serve as the very cornerstone of the family. Sources and References:
* *Loving Each Other*, by Leo Buscaglia, Ph.D.
* The Bible
* *How to Really Love Your Child*
* *How to Really Love Your Teenager*
* *Encyclopedia of Pediatric and Home Nursing: Parents Must Also Become Half-Doctors*, by Lee Sang-won
* *The Harriet Lane Handbook*, 18th & 19th Editions, The Johns Hopkins Hospital
* *Red Book*, 29th Edition (2012)
* *Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics*, 19th Edition
* *Infectious Diseases of Children*, by Saul Krugman, Samuel L. Katz, Ann A. Gershon, and Catherine Wilfert
* Volume 22: *Raising Sons and Daughters: A Guide* (References and Sources)
* *Emergency Care and Transportation of the Sick and Injured*, American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons
* *Emergency Pediatrics: A Guide to Ambulatory Care*, by Roger M. Barkin and Peter Rosen
* *Gray’s Anatomy*
* *Ambulatory Pediatrics*, by Green and Haggerty (Saunders)
* *Introduction to Clinical Pediatrics*, by Smith and Marshall (W.B. Saunders Co.)
* *School Health: A Guide for Health Professionals*, American Academy of Pediatrics
* *Goodman & Gilman’s The Pharmacological Basis of Therapeutics*
* The Bible
* *How to Really Love Your Child*, by Ross Campbell
* *Good Behavior*, by Stephen W. Garber, Ph.D., et al.
* *Kids Who Follow, Kids Who…* Don’t
Loving Each Other — Leo F. Buscaglia, Ph.D.
A Navigator for True Parental Love
Raising Teenagers: How to Love and Guide Your Sons and Daughters — Translated by Lee Sang-won
Pediatrics — Korean Textbook of Pediatrics
Medical Dictionary — Korean Medical Association
Other Resources
Copyright © drleepediatrics.com — February 26, 2026