The degree to which children are happy and stable depends on how happy and stable the marriage of the mother and father is. Marital happiness of parents positively influence their children’s happiness. 자녀가 행복하고 안정적인 정도는 어머니와 아버지의 결혼 생활이 얼마나 행복하고 안정적인가에 달려 있습니다. 부모의 결혼생활 행복은 자녀의 행복에 긍정적인 영향을 미친다
자녀가 행복하고 안정적인 정도는 어머니와 아버지의 결혼 생활이 얼마나 행복하고 안정적인가에 달려 있습니다. 부모의 결혼생활 행복은 자녀의 행복에 긍정적인 영향을 미친다
The degree to which children are happy and stable depends on how happy and stable the marriage of the mother and father is. Marital happiness of parents positively influence their children’s happiness
The basic condition necessary for raising stable and happy children is food, clothing, shelter, health, and love. In addition, the marriage between their mother and father must be happy, harmonious, and stable.
The children of mothers and fathers who have a smooth and happy marriage grow happier.
If the home of the growing children is not stable, their children are not truly loved by their parents.
In order for the family to be smooth and stable, the marriage of their mothers and fathers must be stable.
This is a very basic condition.
That comes first.
The family can be stable and comfortable only when the relationship between their mother and father is stable, harmonious, and amicable.
The most important prerequisite for establishing a stable, harmonious, and amicable marital relationship between their mother and father is that their mother and father lead the family with a lot of unconditional true love.
Their Mom and Dad must have a lot of unconditional true love with each other.
Then, Their mom and dad will be friendly and able to maintain a smooth relationship.
What is unconditional love in a marital relationship?
Unconditional love is ideal love.
It is impossible for a couple to achieve 100% unconditional true love with each other.
It is to be more close enough that the couple lives in marriage while truly loving each other without conditions.
Then Their mom and dad’s marriage will be smooth and happy.
Children who grow up under such a mother and father will naturally grow happily.
Children who grow up happily love themselves and know how to love others.
Whatever they do, they will do their best.
Only when you grow up under the parents of a happy and affable mother and father can your children feel that they grow up with full love from their mother and father.
However, children grow up with sound pride.
They can sympathize with young children, respect the elderly, and love the poor and the weak.
They know how to discern right and wrong.
Naturally, they are loved and loved by other people.
How happy are these children?
Money cannot buy such happy children.
Of course, They can’t buy it with money.
In today’s turbulent and complex society, it is virtually very difficult to show children that mothers and fathers are living in a smooth and intimate marital relationship with each other by making a lot of unconditional and genuine love for each other.
Photo 6. Mom and Dad! I love my mom and dad like a mountain and as much as the ocean
Copyright ⓒ 2016John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
However, mom and dad must strive to have an unconditional, true loving couple.
In other words, you need to show your children that the marital relationship between the mom and the dad is smooth and that the two live happily.
Only then will children grow up happily and stably.
The Mom and the Dad must have a lot of true love for each other on that day.
AS Corinthians 13:4~7 Unconditional Love, You cannot love 100% as it is, but you must love one another without conditions.
So you have to show your children how to truly love without condition.
Children also feel happy and grow up and develop joyfully, knowing that their parents truly love them unconditionally.
you must also teach children how to live gentle, good, polite, modest, and humble. Those who live that way truly love others.
Young children don’t have much.
After birth, young children often learn a lot from their mothers and fathers.
You don’t have so much what you see, hear, and learn in your short world life.
What they see, hear, and learn in this short world, they reflect back to their parents and people in this world.
Children who are raised with unconditional love from their parents bring unconditional love to their parents.
Just as it was received, we offer “unconditional love” to the world as well.
Children who have learned to love conditionally from their parents also love their parents or people of this world conditionally.
Even if mothers and fathers have provided their children with abundant food and healthy love, their children do not feel that they are unconditionally truly loved by their parents unless their marital relationship is smooth and they are not happy.
As already explained, unconditional love between a mother and a father is ideal.
However, we must love to be close to that unconditional love.
Also, we must do our best to give unconditional love to our children.
Unfortunately, divorce rates for couples in the United States these days are around 30-40%.
They are said to be almost the same or even more in the motherland. In addition, parents live separate lives due to various complex problems such as personal problems.
There are many children who grow up under a single mother due to the death of a mother or father.
For these and other reasons, many children are unable to grow up under the parents of mothers and fathers, and their families, which are the foundation and basic condition of their lives, are shattered or fluctuated.
There are so many children these days who grow up without the love and care of mothers and fathers, just as a baby bird in a nest that still cannot fly into the air on its own has lost its mother’s baby bird.
The material side of life is so rich and has so much that there is nothing more than a few decades ago.
There are many teenage children who wander after running away from home without purpose under their parents.
Some of them are also entangled in a collective snare of heretics who are only open to self-interest.
You can predict what kind of problems will come to them and what will happen to them in the future.
The quality and quantity of love between mothers and fathers is directly linked to the quality and quantity of love between parents and children.
“Parents should also be at least a half doctor(부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다).” Here and there are repeated explanations of “how to truly love your children”.
Because it is of paramount importance to love and raise your children properly and truly.
Here again, I will talk about specific ways of how parents truly love their children unconditionally.
I’ve heard something like this.
Ask your adolescent children, “Do you think you are truly loved by your parents without condition?” I asked the question.
“Yes, it is.” Only 5% of adolescent children answered.
Ask their parents, “Are you truly unconditionally loving your children?” I asked a question.
95% of them said, “We love our children without the condition.”
Why did you get the answer to this result?
There are many reasons for this, but it is because parents’ love for their children was not well communicated to their adolescent children because they did not know how to truly love their children.
What a sad relationship between parents and adolescent children.
Here, mothers and fathers must learn how to love their children so that the love of their children is fully conveyed to their adolescent children.
Almost all parents love their children with eye contact love, physical contact love, focused attention love, and care, train their children with love, and nurture their children well, but do not know how to effectively communicate parental love to their children.
Also, they don’t even know how important “real love without conditions” is when they love their children.
Photo 7. Parents must love their children unconditionally so that they love others unconditionally, establish good interpersonal relationships, do their best in this world, and live with a lot of sound pride. Copyright ⓒ 2016 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP