9. Harmful love and wrong love to your children. 자녀에게 해로운 사랑과 그릇된 사랑을
Unfortunately, many parents love possessively their children without knowing it. Some parents love their children with seductive love.
They may love their children with role reversal love.
And They may raise their children with loving vicariously and lovingly by proxy.
Possessive love, seductive love, role reversal love, and vicarious love are called false love and wrong love and furthermore, they do not love but one kind of child abuse.
In fact, this kind of parent-child love is an extremely harmful method of love in parent-child relationships.
Still, many parents love and nurture their children that way without knowing it.
Parents take away all their children’s rights just as they own their children, and they raise them as if they were owned by their parents.
This love is called possessive love.
To love a child in this way is false love, wrong love, and harmful love.
Children who are raised with such love have a lot of trouble getting through the harsh world.
Even after they reach adulthood, the children are tied to their parents so that they can’t go anywhere on their own or can’t make any decisions on their own when they do anything, so that they can always hang on to their parents. How poor parent-child relationship is.
We say possessive love, but possessive love, in fact, doesn’t even belong to love.
Children raised by just possessive love can be the following types of adults
I also saw examples of the parents bringing their 26-year-old son from their mother country to the United States, leaving him at one of their relatives in the United States, asking them to feed him well and to take care of him, and then returning to Korea. This is one of the examples of heritages that grow up with possessive love (note repeating article).
There is also sexually a tempting way to love their children. That too is false love and wrong love.
Some parents raise their children by sexually seducing them without knowing that is one kinda child abuse.
The truth is child abuse, not love.
Role reversal love and nurturing is a false love and wrong love that kind of child love is harmful to children.
Parents should be in a position to love their children so that they grow up with sound healthy pride. Parents should not be in a position to love falsely wrongly their inexperienced children directly or indirectly.
Unknowingly, there are parents who raise their children with possessive love, seductive love, and role reversal love.
Parents think they love their children right, but in fact, such love is false love and they are very harmful and wrong.
It is a method of parent-child love that is extremely harmful to growing and developing children.
Even after their children are grown up with this wrong love, they cannot lead a full life and can become the main cause of preventing a healthy social life.
Some parents do not directly or indirectly give their 30-year-old son or daughter the right to seek a partner to marry.
There are also parents who don’t even give them the right to choose a job.
Some parents have all the power to make decisions for the well-being and peace of their children who reached adulthood long ago.
It is an example of possessive love to have a parent-child relationship by commanding to do this way and that to do that, and to guide the adult child according to the parents’ thoughts and claims.
Some parents deprive their adult children of economic power if their children aged 30 to 40 do not comply with their parents’ words.
Parents must truly love their children without such harmful conditions. And parents cannot own children. And parents should not sexually seduce children.