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• John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP.
• Born in Anmyeon-do, Taean-gun, Chungnam, Korea
• Graduated from Yonsei University College of Medicine
• Susan Free Health Care Clinic and Served as a Korean military doctor
• Pediatric Resident Training at the University of Connecticut, Medical School, Connecticut, USA and Yale University School of Medicine
• American Academy of pediatrics board-certified and Korean academy of pediatrics board certified
• Medical License, for New York State, North Carolina State, Connecticut State, Korean
• John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP, Pediatric Practice for 32 years, Willimantic, Conn, USA
• Author: Home Pediatric medical care- Encyclopedia-Bumodo-Ban-Usage-Dejay-Handa, Raise Sons and Daughters with unconditional love, and Hunmnity Education such as. Pediatric Growth and development and parenting, Pediatric and adolescent Epilepsy + 100 questions and answers, www.koreapediatrics.com (2001-present) website, www.doctorleeflowerphoto.com, www.drleepediatrics.com. and more
• Clinical Assistant Professor, Pediatrics, UCONN Medical School, Connecticut, USA.
• Korean Society Association, Chairmpers0n, Connecticut, USA.

 

Preface

 RAISE YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS with rea unconditional love………………………………………….2

 

It is an honor to present ” How to Raise Your Sons and Daughters ” to people all over the world, especially my mother country, Korea, and the United State of America where I am living. Foods, shelter, clothes, health, and love are the most basic human necessity for children as well as adults. We all need a healthy, happy, and productive life with healthy self-esteem.

My wife and I have been together for 55 years-marriage life and we raised our two sons and one daughter without the fundamental parenting knowledge such as unconditional love and training children with love and so on.

I have been practicing in pediatrics for nearly 32 years at Willimantic, Connecticut, USA.

I found the parenting methods and principles in western society and oriental society are fundamentally the same, however, there are many differences in details parenting philosophy found.

I and my wife have grown in Korea until both came to the USA at the age of 30 years old and we have lived in the USA since then. I am able to combine oriental style parenting with western-style parenting into the most ideal best parenting in this book. I have collected the best parenting information from many textbooks from Korea and the USA

This book will give parents in the allover world how to raise and love their children and give cognitive and virtue education to their children and adolescents (0-18 years old).

This book also is for child-rearing guidelines that are easy to understand and practical and is compiled based on information obtained from extensive sources such as from various pediatric textbooks, journals, and the experience for 57 years medical professional career, a pediatrician and also as a parent.

“How to raise your sons and daughters” means how to love really unconditionally and raise your children and adolescents, how to make enough sleep, how to get the highest level of mental health, cognitive education, how to cultivate physical education, and how to become a productive member with healthy self-esteem and pride as a member in this society.

How can parents love their children while they are growing up and developing into adulthoods, how to communicate between children and parents well, how to relieve stress, how to manage anger, how to cultivate physical education, how to prevent teenagers to run away, bullying, teenage pregnancy, theft, lies, child-raising information, such as child abuse, is also provided here?

If you read this book and you will get a lot of information about raising children. It will give you the ideal directions for raising children and give you what was wrong and what was right in parenting.

This book will serve as a shining light so that parents can be extremely rewarded with what they did well while raising children and young children, and that wrong parenting practices can be corrected.

And also this book helps you how to raise your children into healthy and productive children with healthy self-esteem, how to love and raise your children, how to make sure that they have enough rest and sleep, how to keep your family stable while mom and dad are married smoothly and how to make unconditional love, how to convey the love of parents’ children, unconditional love, how to communicate between parents and children, how to build a happy family. It tells about children’s innate personality and nature. It also provides information on physical ailments such as colds, bronchial asthma, and allergic rhinitis that are common among children and adolescents, and mental health problems.

The information on parenting in this book would be very good for parents, doctors, as well as grandparents, elementary, middle, and high school teachers, medical students, nurses, students, and children and adolescents, all men and women.

If possible, it would be good to read it once from start to finish on a regular basis, and then read the necessary information as needed to solve problems such as loving children.

However, this book is not a substitute for your doctors and good parents’ parenting.

In addition, some of the contents of this book may be duplicated with the contents of other volumes for convenience. I hope you can recommend this book to your friends.

In the future, This book should be improved. I wish your generous heart to achieve that purpose.

Thank you to everyone who became the model of the photos and to all of you who participated in “Ask and question on the Internet for Children and Youth”.

Special thanks to the publisher for creating this book

You may get more information in the Korean Language from Chapter 1, volume 22, How to love your child, www.drleepediatrics.com and other pediatric health care including Google, www.drleepediatrics.com, especially chapter 22 which is the Korean version.

I believe it will help a lot. Thank you.

12, 2020

Lee John Sang won, MD., FAAP

American Academy Board Certified Pediatrician,

Korean Academy of Pediatric Board Certified

 

Dedication

Thank my parents.

Special thanks to the pharmacist Lee Chunja, my beloved wife, who loves me to publish these books.

With the patience, encouragement, and cooperation of  My two sons,  Dong-hyeong, Gun-hyeong, one daughter Jini’s proud and son-in-law, and grandchildren, Jabin, Violet, Kai all have brought this book to this world.

Thank you.

For the back cover of the book-“How to Raise Your Sons and Daughters”( to be published soon)

True unconditional love for us!!!!!.

True unconditional love for us!!!!!

Raise us with unconditional love.

Among health, food, and sleep, love, unconditional, love is the first.

More than honor,

More than business,

More than money,

Unconditional love is the most important.

Only then we can grow up very healthier physically, mentally with healthy self-esteem.

With your focused attention love and care, physical contact love and eye contact love,

We will grow very well.

Please train us with love.

Possession love, role reverse love, vicarious love, and seductive love will make to ruin our growth and development and healthy self-esteem and pride.

This is the way how parents raise their children.

Mom and Dad give us unconditional true love!!!!

True love is more than honor, more than money!!!!

Unconditional, true love to us!!!!!

www. drleepediatrics.com

 

Contents

HOW TO RAISE YOUR SONS

                 AND DAUGHTERS

 

Book cover- front………………………………………………………………………  1

Resume……………………………

………………………………………………………… …………………………………….…     1

Preface…………………………………………………………………………………………   2

Dedication…………………………………………………………………………………………. …4

Contents……………………………………………………………………………………….4

1. Nowadays adolescent children and parenting dilemma…………………………………..9

2. How to really love your children unconditionally (1)……………………………………..14

3. What is love?……………………………………………………….…………….. …..22
4. How to really give unconditional love to your children (2)………… ……………..….25
5. Unconditional real Love (3)…………………………………………………………28
6. Happy stable parental marital life and then happy stable children life………………30
7. 9 kinds of Innate temperaments………………………………………………………… 34

8. 25 percentile personality and 75 percentile personality …………    …………….. …38

9. Children should not be raised with harmful and wrong love. ………………………………..48
10. How to give unconditional and real love to your child(4) ……….,………..……….44
11. Raise your children with eye contact love, physical contact love focused attention to love and care. ………………………………….…………………………………… ..51

12. Honorable Senator Paul Tongas’s love for children ………………………….…….53
13. Children are the first priority of parental life……………………………………..……57
14. Train your children with  love………………………………………………..……..……..58
15. Communication between you and your children…………………………….……..…60
16. Mom and Dad, Do you love me? ……………………………………..……………….80
17. Eye contact love for your children………………………………….………………89
18. Physical contact love for your children………………………………………..……..102
19. Focused attention love and care for your children………………………………..123

20. Sex education for children and adolescents………………………………………138

21. Punishment or corporal punishment for children in-home or at  the school -……..151

22. Help your children to develop healthy self-esteem…………………….…… ….. 165
23. Communication of the couple and to my dear husband …………………..……175
24. Hugging………………………………………………………………… ………..,,,.181
25. The short course in human relationship………………………………………….188
26. Teen runaways…………………………………………………………………………..185
27. Adolescent prostitutes……………………………………………………………..… 193

28 . Teenage pregnancy……………………………………………………………………197

39. Masturbation………………………………………………………………………………203
40. Depression in children and adolescent (1)……………………………………………203
41. Depression in adolescent children        (2)………………………………….……..208

32.Anger ventilation ladder  and………………………………………………………………215

33. Stress…………………………………………………………………………………..…221
34. Boys are urgently needed………………………………………………………..… 223
35. Girls are urgently needed…………………………………………….……………231
36. Smoking prevention and cessation……………………………………….…….….234
37. Sopa, Bang Jung Hwan’s “Declaration of children’s Right” in Korea………….…235
38. Korean War Memorial………………………………………………………….… 240
39. Bullying, school violence, cyberbullying, teasing…………………………………242
40. Train your children, not to lies…………………………………………………….……246
41. Truth and falsehood…………………………………………………………… ……..261
42. Feeling guilty, Jealous, Manipulation, Bullying………………………………..……279
43. Stealing in children and adolescents (1)………………………………….…….…..274
44. Stealing in children and adolescents (2)…………………………………………………. 298
45. Pardon, forgiveness……………………………………………………………………306
46. Principles of confidential care for patients……………………………………..……309
47. Praise and jealousy……………………………………………………………..………318
48. Watching the dying child……………………………………………………………………………327

49  One hundred questions & hundreds of answers on common cold  …………………330

50. Should children drink cow’s milk every day?     ……………………… ……………347
51. Hundreds of questions and hundreds of answers on asthma………………………354
52. One hundred questions and hundreds of answers on allergy rhinitis………………388
53. Older brothers or sisters’jealousy towards newborn siblings…………….….……422.
54. How to choose medicine for treatments……………………………………………..…426
55. Happiness isn’t about money, it’s what makes it come to me …………………… ..428
56. From parental control for the teenage children to trust-based self-control ..…… .430
57. Humanity education and humanity education check-lists………………….…..…… 437

source and references…………………………………………………………………..….453