素素才談 소소재담 미국 소아과 전문의 이상원박사 40계명
Lee SangWon’s 40 commandments I wanted to say to the family members who gathered at my house yesterday
우연히 정월 초이틀 어느 페북클럽에 올린 상묘만복 글에 댓글을 단 이상원박사와 댓글로 인사를 나누던 중 그의 페북을 방문하고 너무 좋은 글이 있어 소개 하고자 한다.
이상원 박사는 현재 www.drleepediatrics.com에 한국 소아청소년과 전문의, 미국 소아과 전문의 이상원 박사의 소아 청소년 가정건강(간호) 정보를 게재하고 있는 분이시다.
그는 이 홈 대문에 “부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다” “부모는 적어도 반 의사가되어야합니다” 존 상원, 의학박사, FAAP 한미 소아과 위원회 인증 이라고 기술 되어 있어 믿음직 스럽다.
이상원박사는 그의 페이스북에 2022년 10월 26일 ‘어제 우리 집에 모인 집안 식구들에게 알리고 싶었던 이상원 40계명’이라는 글을 남겼다.
어제 우리 집에 모인 집안 식구들에게 알리고 싶었던 이상원 40계명
1. 특별한 일을 해 주면 물론 감사하다고 말을 할 줄 아라야 한다.
2. 하찬한 잘못을 용서 해 줄 줄도 알고 형제자매가 잘못 하면 7번에 70번 용서 해 줄 줄도 알아야한다.
3. 이 세상에서 완전한 인간이 하나도 없다. 만일 잘못하면 나를 용서 해 달라고 간청하는
것을 배우세요.
4. 사랑이 무엇인지, 조건없는 사랑이란 무엇인지 배우세요. 그리고 간음 하지 마세요.
5. 눈길접촉 사랑, 신체적 접촉사랑, 집중적 관심적 사랑과 보살핌 사랑을 어떻게 해주나
배우세요. 그리고 그런 사랑을 진심으로 하세요
6. 검소하고, 겸손하게 사세요. 남을 비방하지 마세요.
7. 남의 것도 아껴 쓰고, 물론 내 것도 아껴쓰시요.
8. 갓 태어난 아기에게도 인사할 줄 알고 아이들에게도 어르신들에게 인사 할 줄 알고
인사할 때는 대개의 경우 앉은 자리에서 일어나 서 인사하세요.
9. 많거나 적은 도움을 받은 후 물질로, 또는 마음으로, 또는 물심양면으로 그 은혜를 갚으
세요.
10. 때에 따라, 경우에 따라, 내가 당신을 도와 줄수 있는 것이 있으면 도아 줄 수 있다고
물었을때 그렇다고 하면 도와 주세요.
11. 선의의 거짓 말도 하지 말고 사세요.
12 남의 것을 훔치지 마시요.
13, 죽을 때까지 심신이 건강하면 열심히 일하고 적절히 쉬세요.
14. 부모를 공경하시요. 부모가 노년이되면 시력이 어떤지 청력이 어떤지 혈압이 어떤지. 혈당이 어떤자 그외 건강이
어떤지 챙겨드리고 좋은 옷도 사드리고 어디에 모시고 가서 구경도 시켜드리는 등 의식주를 챙겨드리고 많이 많이 사랑해드리세 요. 요양원에 보내지 마세요
15. 당신 참 잘 했다고 칭찬을 많이 하세요.
16. 너의 조상과 가족이 뻐더 나온 뿌리를 잘 알고 그들을 숭배하세요.
17. 형제들을 사랑하고 이웃을 사랑하세요,
18. 집안 장형이나 오빠를 때로는 부모 급으로 존종하고 대우하세요.
19. 의식주, 건강, 사랑, 소망, 믿음을 적절히 잘 유지 하세요.
20. 부부지간에는 NO MATTER WHAT 조건 없는 사랑을 하세요
21. 약속 시간을 지키세요
22. 골든 룰을 따라 살으세요
23.거짓증거를 하지 마세요.
24. 열심히 좋은 책을 많이 읽어 좋은 지식을 많이 갖고 살으세요.
25. 좋은 마음씨 정신 건강을 잘 유지 하세요.
26. 담배를 피지 마세요.
27. 비만하지 않게 체중을 유지 하세요,
28. 적절한 육체적 운동을 적절히 하세요
29. 채소 과일 음식물을 적절히 많이 먹으세요.
30. 나이와 경우에 따른 좋은 인성을 배워 좋은 사람이 되세요
31. 꽃을 함부러 따거나 꺽지 마세요
32.성경, 불교 성전, 논어, 명심 보감, 아들딸 이렇게 사랑해 키워라 (Ross Campbell 저, 이상원 번역,).
Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love, John Sangwon Lee, MD, FAAP, Author, By Dorrance, Published.
인성교육과 인성교육 체크리스트-Hmanity Education and Humanity Education Checklists (이상원 저 파랑새 미디아 출판),
뇌졸중에 걸린 사랑하는 아내를 돌보면서 (이상원 저, 파랑새 미디아 출판),
www.drleepediatrics.com 부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다. 그리고 25 권 Ebook 등에서 더 많은 육아, 건강, 질병, 예방, 사랑에 관해 도움을 받으세요
단순 삶 원칙을 가르친다
33. 호미,삽, 고괭이 없이 농사를 잘 질 수 있나요
34. 낙시, 그물, 배 없이 고기를 많이 잡을 수 있나요
35. 낫, 톱, 도끼 없이 나무를 빌 수 있나요
36, 교과서 없이 공부를 잘 할 수 있나요
37. 성경책으로 공부 하지 않고 좋은 성도가 될 수 있나요
38. 자녀 육아 용 정보책 웹 등으로 공부하지 않고 좋은 부모가 될 수 있나요
39.. 의학도나 간호사 학도가 열심히 공부 하지 않고 좋은 의사나 간호사가 될 수 있나요
40.부모가 공부 하지 않고 좋은 자식을 갖기 어렵죠
첨가 글 5/20/2025
대인 관계에서 많이 쓰면 좋은 말들, The short course in human relationship
제가 잘못했습니다. 잘못한 저를 용서해주세요 (I was wrong, please forgive me).
당신은 참 잘 하셨습니다. (You did a good job).
당신의 의견을 듣고 싶습니다. (What is your opinion).
제가 도와드릴까요. (Can I help you).
감사합니다. (Thank you).
“당신 또는 나” (You or I). 원 저자-모름
우리가 사는 동안 이런 말을 많이 할수록 보다 더 건강하고, 더 행복하게 살 수 있고, 대인 관계가 더 원활 하게 잘 될 수 있다.
잘못했으면 잘못했다고 용서를 구하고 용서를 받는 것이 얼마나 중요한가.
남이 잘한 것에 대해서 잘 했다고 격려와 칭찬을 해 주는 것은 또한 얼마나 좋은가.
나의 주장만 내세우고 내가 이 세상에서 가장 잘났다고 하는 것보다 남의 의견을 들어보고 배우고 더 잘하는 삶의 태도를 갖는 것이 또한 얼마나 좋은가.
나만 잘 살고 편안하고 행복하면 된다고 생각하는 사람들보다 남을 위해서 희생하는 사람이 된다면 얼마나 좋은가.
조그마한 일과 범사에 감사할 줄 아는 사람이 되는 것은 물론이고 남들이 나에게 해 준 아주 하찮고 작은 일에 대해서 항상 감사할 줄 아는 사람이 되는 것은 얼마나 좋은가.
부모형제의 은혜를 잊지말고 감사한 마음을 가지고 살면 얼마나 좋은가.
감사한 마을을 갖는 것도 좋지만 말로 글로 꼭 화답하도록 자녀를 키우면 얼마나 좋은가.
대인관계에서 “나”라는 말은 가능한 한 내세우지 않고 “당신”을 존중하는 대인관계를 갖고 살면 또한 얼마나 좋은가.
평상시 아이들이나 성인들이 이런 말을 더 많이 하고 그 말을 한대로 실행하면서 사는 것이 얼마나 좋은가.
독자 여러분!
자녀들도 이런 말들을 평상시 많이 하면서 살도록 가르쳐 주시면 어떨까요?
평소에도 인사하고 특별한 때도 인사를 잘 하면 성공 길이 훤해 집니다.
Lee SangWon’s 40 Commandments: Simple and Honest Talk by Dr. Lee SangWon, a Pediatric Specialist in the US
I happened to exchange greetings with Dr. Lee SangWon through comments on a post I made on a Facebook group on the second day of the Lunar New Year. While visiting his Facebook page, I found some excellent writings that I wanted to share.
Dr. Lee SangWon currently publishes information on pediatric and adolescent family health (nursing) on his website, www.drleepediatrics.com. He is a certified pediatrician in both Korea and the United States.
His website’s homepage states, “Parents should be half-doctors,” “Parents should be at least half-doctors,” John Sangwon, MD, FAAP, American Board of Pediatrics Certified, which makes him seem trustworthy.
On October 26, 2022, Dr. Lee SangWon posted an article on his Facebook page titled “Lee SangWon’s 40 Commandments I wanted to tell the family members who gathered at my house yesterday.”
Dr. Lee SangWon currently publishes information on pediatric and adolescent family health (nursing) on his website, www.drleepediatrics.com. He is a certified pediatrician in both Korea and the United States.
His website’s homepage states, “Parents should be half-doctors,” “Parents should be at least half-doctors,” John Sangwon, MD, FAAP, American Board of Pediatrics Certified, which makes him seem trustworthy.
On October 26, 2022, Dr. Lee SangWon posted an article on his Facebook page titled “Lee SangWon’s 40 Commandments I wanted to tell the family members who gathered at my house yesterday.”
Lee SangWon’s 40 Commandments I wanted to tell the family members who gathered at my house yesterday
1. You should know how to say thank you when someone does something special for you.
2. You should know how to forgive minor mistakes, and if your siblings make a mistake, you should forgive them 70 times 7 times.
3. There is no perfect human being in this world. If you make a mistake, learn to beg for forgiveness.
4. Learn what love is, and what unconditional love is. And do not commit adultery.
5. Learn how to show love through eye contact, physical touch, focused attention, and caring. And do so sincerely.
6. Live frugally and humbly. Do not slander others.
2. You should know how to forgive minor mistakes, and if your siblings make a mistake, you should forgive them 70 times 7 times.
3. There is no perfect human being in this world. If you make a mistake, learn to beg for forgiveness.
4. Learn what love is, and what unconditional love is. And do not commit adultery.
5. Learn how to show love through eye contact, physical touch, focused attention, and caring. And do so sincerely.
6. Live frugally and humbly. Do not slander others.
7. Take good care of other people’s belongings, and of course, take good care of your own as well.
8. Know how to greet even a newborn baby, and know how to greet children and the elderly. When greeting, usually stand up from your seat and bow.
9. After receiving help, whether big or small, repay that kindness with material things, with your heart, or with both.
10. Depending on the time and circumstances, if you can help someone, and they say yes when you ask if you can help them, then help them.
11. Do not tell even well-intentioned lies.
12. Do not steal other people’s belongings.
13. As long as you are physically and mentally healthy until you die, work hard and rest appropriately.
14. Respect your parents. When your parents are elderly, check on their eyesight, hearing, blood pressure, blood sugar, and other aspects of their health. Buy them nice clothes, take them to places to see things, and take care of their basic needs (food, clothing, and shelter). Love them very, very much. Do not send them to a nursing home.
15. Praise yourself often, saying, “You did a great job.”
16. Know your ancestors and family roots well and respect them.
17. Love your siblings and your neighbors.
18. Treat your older siblings or older brothers with the same respect and consideration as you would your parents.
19. Maintain a good balance of basic needs (food, clothing, and shelter), health, love, hope, and faith.
20. In a marriage, love each other unconditionally, no matter what.
21. Keep your promises and be on time.
22. Live by the Golden Rule.
23. Do not bear false witness.
24. Read many good books diligently and acquire a lot of good knowledge.
25. Maintain a good heart and good mental health.
26. Do not smoke.
8. Know how to greet even a newborn baby, and know how to greet children and the elderly. When greeting, usually stand up from your seat and bow.
9. After receiving help, whether big or small, repay that kindness with material things, with your heart, or with both.
10. Depending on the time and circumstances, if you can help someone, and they say yes when you ask if you can help them, then help them.
11. Do not tell even well-intentioned lies.
12. Do not steal other people’s belongings.
13. As long as you are physically and mentally healthy until you die, work hard and rest appropriately.
14. Respect your parents. When your parents are elderly, check on their eyesight, hearing, blood pressure, blood sugar, and other aspects of their health. Buy them nice clothes, take them to places to see things, and take care of their basic needs (food, clothing, and shelter). Love them very, very much. Do not send them to a nursing home.
15. Praise yourself often, saying, “You did a great job.”
16. Know your ancestors and family roots well and respect them.
17. Love your siblings and your neighbors.
18. Treat your older siblings or older brothers with the same respect and consideration as you would your parents.
19. Maintain a good balance of basic needs (food, clothing, and shelter), health, love, hope, and faith.
20. In a marriage, love each other unconditionally, no matter what.
21. Keep your promises and be on time.
22. Live by the Golden Rule.
23. Do not bear false witness.
24. Read many good books diligently and acquire a lot of good knowledge.
25. Maintain a good heart and good mental health.
26. Do not smoke.
27. Maintain a healthy weight to avoid obesity.
28. Get adequate physical exercise.
29. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables.
30. Learn good character traits appropriate for your age and circumstances to become a good person.
31. Do not carelessly pick or break flowers.
32. The Bible, Buddhist scriptures, Analects of Confucius, Myungshim Bogam, How to Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Love (by Ross Campbell, translated by Sangwon Lee).
Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love, John Sangwon Lee, MD, FAAP, Author, Published by Dorrance.
Humanity Education and humanity education Checklists (by Sangwon Lee, published by Parangsae Media),
While Caring for My Beloved Wife Who Suffered a Stroke (by Sangwon Lee, published by Parangsae Media),
www.drleepediatrics.com, Parents should also become half-doctors. And get more help on parenting, health, disease, prevention, and love from 25 Ebooks and other resources.
Teaching simple life principles
33. Can you farm well without a hoe, shovel, or pickaxe?
34. Can you catch many fish without a fishing rod, net, or boat?
35. Can you cut down trees without a sickle, saw, or axe?
36. Can you study well without textbooks?
37. Can you become a good believer without studying the Bible?
38. Can you become a good parent without studying parenting information books and websites?
39. Can medical or nursing students become good doctors or nurses without studying diligently?
40. It’s difficult for parents to have good children without studying.
28. Get adequate physical exercise.
29. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables.
30. Learn good character traits appropriate for your age and circumstances to become a good person.
31. Do not carelessly pick or break flowers.
32. The Bible, Buddhist scriptures, Analects of Confucius, Myungshim Bogam, How to Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Love (by Ross Campbell, translated by Sangwon Lee).
Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love, John Sangwon Lee, MD, FAAP, Author, Published by Dorrance.
Humanity Education and humanity education Checklists (by Sangwon Lee, published by Parangsae Media),
While Caring for My Beloved Wife Who Suffered a Stroke (by Sangwon Lee, published by Parangsae Media),
www.drleepediatrics.com, Parents should also become half-doctors. And get more help on parenting, health, disease, prevention, and love from 25 Ebooks and other resources.
Teaching simple life principles
33. Can you farm well without a hoe, shovel, or pickaxe?
34. Can you catch many fish without a fishing rod, net, or boat?
35. Can you cut down trees without a sickle, saw, or axe?
36. Can you study well without textbooks?
37. Can you become a good believer without studying the Bible?
38. Can you become a good parent without studying parenting information books and websites?
39. Can medical or nursing students become good doctors or nurses without studying diligently?
40. It’s difficult for parents to have good children without studying.
Added text 5/20/2025
Words that are good to use often in interpersonal relationships, The short course in human relationships
I was wrong. Please forgive me for my mistake.
You did a great job.
I would like to hear your opinion.
Can I help you?
Thank you.
“You or I” (Original author unknown)
I was wrong. Please forgive me for my mistake.
You did a great job.
I would like to hear your opinion.
Can I help you?
Thank you.
“You or I” (Original author unknown)
The more we say these words during our lives, the healthier and happier we can be, and the smoother our interpersonal relationships will be.
How important it is to apologize and receive forgiveness when we have made a mistake.
How wonderful it is to encourage and praise others for what they have done well.
How much better it is to listen to others’ opinions, learn from them, and adopt a better attitude towards life, rather than only asserting our own opinions and thinking that we are the best in the world.
How wonderful it would be if we became people who sacrifice for others, rather than those who think that it’s enough if only they themselves live well, comfortably, and happily.
How wonderful it is to be a person who is grateful for small things and everything in general, and to always be grateful for even the most insignificant things that others have done for us.
How wonderful it is to live with a grateful heart, never forgetting the kindness of our parents and siblings.
It’s good to have a grateful heart, but how wonderful it would be to raise children who express their gratitude in words and writing.
How wonderful it would be to live with interpersonal relationships where we don’t emphasize “I” as much as possible, but instead respect “you.”
How wonderful it would be if children and adults said these words more often and lived according to them.
Dear readers!
How about teaching your children to say these words often in their daily lives?
If you greet others well in everyday life and on special occasions, the path to success will become clear.
How important it is to apologize and receive forgiveness when we have made a mistake.
How wonderful it is to encourage and praise others for what they have done well.
How much better it is to listen to others’ opinions, learn from them, and adopt a better attitude towards life, rather than only asserting our own opinions and thinking that we are the best in the world.
How wonderful it would be if we became people who sacrifice for others, rather than those who think that it’s enough if only they themselves live well, comfortably, and happily.
How wonderful it is to be a person who is grateful for small things and everything in general, and to always be grateful for even the most insignificant things that others have done for us.
How wonderful it is to live with a grateful heart, never forgetting the kindness of our parents and siblings.
It’s good to have a grateful heart, but how wonderful it would be to raise children who express their gratitude in words and writing.
How wonderful it would be to live with interpersonal relationships where we don’t emphasize “I” as much as possible, but instead respect “you.”
How wonderful it would be if children and adults said these words more often and lived according to them.
Dear readers!
How about teaching your children to say these words often in their daily lives?
If you greet others well in everyday life and on special occasions, the path to success will become clear.
update 12/28/2025
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