미국 한국 소아과 전문의 이상원박사의 40계명
우연히 정월 초이틀 어느 페북클럽에 올린 상묘만복 글에 댓글을 단 이상원 박사와 댓글로 인사를 나누던 중 그의 페북을 방문하고 너무 좋은 글이 있어 소개하고자 한다.
이상원 박사는 현재 www.drleepediatrics.com 에 한국 소아청소년과 전문의, 미국 소아과 전문의 이상원 박사의 소아 청소년 가정건강(간호) 정보를 게재하고 있는 분이시다.
그는 이 홈페이지 대문에 “부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다” “부모는 적어도 반 의사가되어야합니다” 존 상원 리, 의학박사, FAAP 한미 소아과 위원회 인증이라고 기술되어 있어 믿음직스럽다.
이상원박사는 그의 페이스북에 2022년 10월 26일 ‘어제 우리 집에 모인 집안 식구들에게 알리고 싶었던 이상원 40계명’이라는 글을 남겼다.
어제 우리 집에 모인 집안 식구들에게 알리고 싶었던 이상원 박사의 40계명
1. 특별한 일을 해주면 물론 감사하다고 말을 할 줄 알아야 한다.
2. 하찮은 잘못을 용서해 줄주도 알고 형제 자매가 잘못하면 7번에 70번 용서해 줄주도 알아야 한다.
3. 이 세상에서 완전한 인간은 하나도 없다. 만일 잘못하면 나를 용서해 달라고 간청하는 것을 배우세요.
4. 사랑이 무엇인지, 조건없는 사랑이란 무엇인지 배우세요. 그리고 간음 하지 마세요.
5. 눈길접촉 사랑, 신체적 접촉사랑, 집중적 관심적 사랑과 보살핌 사랑을 어떻게 해주나 배우세요. 그리고 그런 사랑을 진심으로 하세요
6. 검소하고, 겸손하게 사세요. 남을 비방하지 마세요.
7. 남의 것도 아껴 쓰고, 물론 내 것도 아껴쓰세요.
8. 갓 태어난 아기에게도 인사할 줄 알고 아이들에게도, 어르신들에게 인사할 줄 알고 인사할 때는 대개의 경우 앉은 자리에서 일어나서 인사하세요.
9. 많거나 적은 도움을 받은 후 물질로, 또는 마음으로, 또는 물심양면으로 그 은혜를 갚으세요.
10. 때에 따라, 경우에 따라, 내가 당신을 도와줄 수 있는 것이 있으면 도와줄 수 있다고 물었을때 그렇다고 하면 도와주세요.
11. 선의의 거짓 말도 하지 말고 사세요.
12 남의 것을 훔치지 마세요.
13, 죽을 때까지 심신이 건강하면 열심히 일하고 적절히 쉬세요.
14. 부모를 공경하세요. 부모가 노년이되면 시력이 어떤지, 청력이 어떤지, 혈압이 어떤지. 혈당이 어떤지, 그외 건강이 어떤지 챙겨드리고 좋은 옷도 사드리고 어디에 모시고 가서 구경도 시켜드리는 등 의식주를 챙겨드리고 많이 많이 사랑해 드리세요. 요양원에 보내지 마세요
15. 당신 참 잘했다고 칭찬을 많이 하세요.
16. 너의 조상과 가족이 뻗어나온 뿌리를 잘 알고 그들을 숭배하세요.
17. 형제들을 사랑하고 이웃을 사랑하세요,
18. 집안의 큰형이나 오빠를 때로는 부모처럼 존종하고 대우하세요.
19. 의식주, 건강, 사랑, 소망, 믿음을 적절히 잘 유지하세요.
20. 부부지간에는 NO MATTER WHAT 조건 없는 사랑을 하세요
21. 약속 시간을 지키세요
22. 골든 룰을 따라 살으세요
23.거짓 증거를 하지 마세요.
24. 열심히 좋은 책을 많이 읽어 좋은 지식을 많이 갖고 살으세요.
25. 좋은 마음씨와 정신 건강을 잘 유지하세요.
26. 담배를 피지 마세요.
27. 비만하지 않게 체중을 유지 하세요,
28. 적절한 육체적 운동을 적절히 하세요
29. 채소, 과일 음식물을 적절히 많이 먹으세요.
30. 나이와 경우에 따른 좋은 인성을 배워 좋은 사람이 되세요
31. 꽃을 함부러 따거나 꺽지 마세요
32.성경, 불교 성전, 논어, 명심 보감, 10대의 아들딸 이렇게 사랑해 키워라 (Ross Campbell 저, 이상원 번역,).
Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love, John Sangwon Lee, MD, FAAP, Author, By Dorrance, Published. 아들 딸 조건없는 진정한 사랑으로 키우세요 그리고 인성교육을 이렇게 (이상원저, 양서긱 출판)
인성교육과 인성교육 체크리스트-Hmanity Education and Humanity Education Checklists (이상원 저 파랑새메디아 출판),
뇌졸중에 걸린 사랑하는 아내를 돌보면서 (이상원 저, 파랑새 미디아 출판),
www.drleepediatrics.com 부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다. 그리고 25 권 Ebook 등에서 더 많은 육아, 건강, 질병, 예방, 사랑에 관해 도움을 받으세요
단순한 삶의 원칙을 가르친다
33. 호미,삽, 곡괭이 없이 농사를 잘 지을 수 있나요?
34. 낚시, 그물, 배 없이 고기를 많이 잡을 수 있나요?
35. 낫, 톱, 도끼 없이 나무를 자를 수 있나요?
36, 교과서 없이 공부를 잘 할 수 있나요?
37. 성경책으로 공부하지 않고 좋은 성도가 될 수 있나요?
38. 자녀 육아용 정보책, 웹사이트 등으로 공부하지 않고 좋은 부모가 될 수 있나요?
39. 의학도나 간호사 학도가 열심히 공부하지 않고 좋은 의사나 간호사가 될 수 있나요?
40.부모가 공부하지 않고 좋은 자식을 갖기 어렵죠
첨가 글 5/20/2025
대인 관계에서 많이 쓰면 좋은 말들, The short course in human relationship
제가 잘못했습니다. 잘못한 저를 용서해 주세요 (I was wrong, please forgive me).
당신은 참 잘하셨습니다. (You did a good job).
당신의 의견을 듣고 싶습니다. (What is your opinion).
제가 도와드릴까요. (Can I help you).
감사합니다. (Thank you).
“당신 또는 나” (You or I). 원 저자-모름
우리가 사는 동안 이런 말을 많이 할수록 보다 더 건강하고, 더 행복하게 살 수 있고, 대인 관계가 더 원활하게 잘 될 수 있다.
잘못했으면 잘못했다고 용서를 구하고 용서를 받는 것이 얼마나 중요한가.
남이 잘한 것에 대해서 잘했다고 격려와 칭찬을 해주는 것은 또한 얼마나 좋은가.
나의 주장만 내세우고 내가 이 세상에서 가장 잘났다고 하는 것보다 남의 의견을 들어보고 배우고 더 잘하는 삶의 태도를 갖는 것이 또한 얼마나 좋은가.
나만 잘살고 편안하고 행복하면 된다고 생각하는 사람들보다 남을 위해서 희생하는 사람이 된다면 얼마나 좋은가.
조그마한 일과 범사에 감사할 줄 아는 사람이 되는 것은 물론이고 남들이 나에게 해준 아주 하찮고 작은 일에 대해서 항상 감사할 줄 아는 사람이 되는 것은 얼마나 좋은가.
부모형제의 은혜를 잊지말고 감사한 마음을 가지고 살면 얼마나 좋은가.
감사한 마을을 갖는 것도 좋지만 말로 글로 꼭 화답하도록 자녀를 키우면 얼마나 좋은가.
대인관계에서 “나”라는 말은 가능한 한 내세우지 않고 “당신”을 존중하는 대인관계를 갖고 살면 또한 얼마나 좋은가.
평상시 아이들이나 성인들이 이런 말을 더 많이 하고 그 말을 한대로 실행하면서 사는 것이 얼마나 좋은가.
독자 여러분!
자녀들도 이런 말들을 평상시 많이 하면서 살도록 가르쳐 주시면 어떨까요?
평소에도 인사하고 특별한 때에도 인사를 잘하면 성공의 길이 훤해 집니다.
The 40 Commandments of Dr. Sang-won Lee, an American And Korean Pediatrician
I happened to be exchanging comments with Dr. Sang-won Lee on a Facebook club post about the blessings of a happy new year. I came across his Facebook page and came across a wonderful post I’d like to share.
Dr. Lee currently posts information on pediatrics and family health (nursing) for children and adolescents at www.drleepediatrics.com, written by Dr. Lee, a Korean pediatrician and American pediatrician.
His homepage clearly states, “Parents should be half doctors, too.” “Parents should be at least half doctors.” His credentials are evident in the fact that he is certified by the Korean-American Pediatrics Board, John Sang-won Lee, MD, FAAP.
Dr. Lee posted on his Facebook page on October 26, 2022, “The 40 Commandments of Dr. Lee I Wanted to Share with My Family at Our Home Yesterday.” Dr. Lee Sang-won’s 40 Commandments, which I wanted to share with the family gathered at my house yesterday:
1. Of course, you should know how to say thank you when someone does something special for you.
2. You should know how to forgive even the smallest offenses, and you should also know how to forgive your siblings seven times out of seven.
3. No one is perfect in this world. If you do something wrong, learn to ask for forgiveness.
4. Learn what love is, what unconditional love is, and don’t commit adultery.
5. Learn how to love with eye contact, physical touch, focused attention, and nurturing love. And do it sincerely.
6. Live frugally and humbly. Don’t slander others.
7. Be frugal with others’ belongings, and of course, be frugal with your own.
8. Know how to greet newborns, children, and the elderly, and when greeting them, usually stand up from your seat.
9. Repay the favor, whether you receive a lot or a little, with material goods, your heart, or both.
10. Depending on the situation, if someone asks if I can help you in any way, and they say yes, then help them.
11. Live without lying in good faith.
12. Do not steal.
13. Until you die, if you are healthy in body and mind, work hard and rest appropriately.
14. Respect your parents. When your parents grow old, monitor their eyesight, hearing, blood pressure, blood sugar, and other health conditions. Buy them nice clothes, take them on trips, and show them your love. Don’t send them to a nursing home.
15. Praise them often for doing a good job.
16. Know your ancestors and the roots of your family well and revere them.
17. Love your siblings and neighbors.
18. Respect and treat your older siblings as if they were your parents.
19. Maintain adequate food, clothing, shelter, health, love, hope, and faith.
20. Love your spouse unconditionally, saying “No Matter What.”
21. Keep your appointments.
22. Live by the Golden Rule.
23. Don’t bear false witness.
24. Read many good books diligently to gain valuable knowledge.
25. Maintain a good heart and good mental health.
26. Don’t smoke.
27. Maintain a healthy weight.
28. Get adequate physical exercise.
29. Eat plenty of vegetables and fruits. 30. Learn good character traits appropriate to your age and situation and become a good person.
31. Don’t pick or pluck flowers indiscriminately.
32. The Bible, Buddhist scriptures, the Analects of Confucius, the Mindfulness Book, and Raising Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love (Ross Campbell, translated by Sangwon Lee).
Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love (John Sangwon Lee, MD, FAAP, Author, by Dorrance, Published). Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Unconditional Real Love and Humanity, Such As ( Author Jojhn Sangwon Lee, published by Yaengsukak)
Humanity Education and Humanity Education Checklists (Sangwon Lee, Parangsae Media Publishing),
Caring for My Beloved Wife Who Had a Stroke (Sangwon Lee, Parangsae Media Publishing),
www.drleepediatrics.com Parents Should Become Half-Doctors, Too. And get more help on parenting, health, disease prevention, and love with 25 ebooks and more.
8. Know how to greet newborns, children, and the elderly, and when greeting them, usually stand up from your seat.
9. Repay the favor, whether you receive a lot or a little, with material goods, your heart, or both.
10. Depending on the situation, if someone asks if I can help you in any way, and they say yes, then help them.
11. Live without lying in good faith.
12. Do not steal.
13. Until you die, if you are healthy in body and mind, work hard and rest appropriately.
14. Respect your parents. When your parents grow old, monitor their eyesight, hearing, blood pressure, blood sugar, and other health conditions. Buy them nice clothes, take them on trips, and show them your love. Don’t send them to a nursing home.
15. Praise them often for doing a good job.
16. Know your ancestors and the roots of your family well and revere them.
17. Love your siblings and neighbors.
18. Respect and treat your older siblings as if they were your parents.
19. Maintain adequate food, clothing, shelter, health, love, hope, and faith.
20. Love your spouse unconditionally, saying “No Matter What.”
21. Keep your appointments.
22. Live by the Golden Rule.
23. Don’t bear false witness.
24. Read many good books diligently to gain valuable knowledge.
25. Maintain a good heart and good mental health.
26. Don’t smoke.
27. Maintain a healthy weight.
28. Get adequate physical exercise.
29. Eat plenty of vegetables and fruits. 30. Learn good character traits appropriate to your age and situation and become a good person.
31. Don’t pick or pluck flowers indiscriminately.
32. The Bible, Buddhist scriptures, the Analects of Confucius, the Mindfulness Book, and Raising Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love (Ross Campbell, translated by Sangwon Lee).
Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Real Unconditional Love (John Sangwon Lee, MD, FAAP, Author, by Dorrance, Published). Raise Your Sons and Daughters with Unconditional Real Love and Humanity, Such As ( Author Jojhn Sangwon Lee, published by Yaengsukak)
Humanity Education and Humanity Education Checklists (Sangwon Lee, Parangsae Media Publishing),
Caring for My Beloved Wife Who Had a Stroke (Sangwon Lee, Parangsae Media Publishing),
www.drleepediatrics.com Parents Should Become Half-Doctors, Too. And get more help on parenting, health, disease prevention, and love with 25 ebooks and more.
Teaching the Principles of Simple Living
33. Can you farm successfully without a hoe, shovel, or pickaxe?
34. Can you catch a lot of fish without fishing, nets, or boats?
35. Can you chop wood without a sickle, saw, or axe?
36. Can you study well without textbooks?
37. Can you become a good Christian without studying the Bible?
38. Can you become a good parent without studying from parenting books, websites, etc.?
39. Can a medical or nursing student become a good doctor or nurse without studying hard?
40. It’s difficult for parents to have good children without studying.
Added Post 5/20/2025
Phrases that are good to use frequently in interpersonal relationships: The Short Course in Human Relationships
I was wrong. Please forgive me.
You did a good job.
I’d like to hear your opinion. (What is your opinion?)
Can I help you?
Thank you?
“You or I.” Original author: Unknown
The more we say these words throughout our lives, the healthier, happier we become, and the smoother our interpersonal relationships become.
How important is it to ask for and receive forgiveness when we make a mistake?
How good is it to encourage and praise others for their good deeds?
How good is it to have a life attitude of listening to others, learning from them, and improving rather than insisting on our own opinions and claiming we are the best in the world?
How good is it to be someone who sacrifices for others rather than someone who thinks only about living well, comfortably, and happily?
How good is it to be someone who is grateful not only for small things and all things, but also for the smallest and most insignificant things others do for us.
How good is it to never forget the kindness of our parents and siblings and to live with a grateful heart? It’s great to have a grateful community, but how wonderful it would be to raise children who always respond with words and writing.
How wonderful it would be to live in interpersonal relationships where the word “I” is minimized and “you” is respected.
How wonderful it would be if children and adults spoke these words more often and lived by them.
Readers!
How about teaching your children to speak these words more often in their daily lives?
Greeting others regularly, and even on special occasions, will brighten the path to success.
34. Can you catch a lot of fish without fishing, nets, or boats?
35. Can you chop wood without a sickle, saw, or axe?
36. Can you study well without textbooks?
37. Can you become a good Christian without studying the Bible?
38. Can you become a good parent without studying from parenting books, websites, etc.?
39. Can a medical or nursing student become a good doctor or nurse without studying hard?
40. It’s difficult for parents to have good children without studying.
Added Post 5/20/2025
Phrases that are good to use frequently in interpersonal relationships: The Short Course in Human Relationships
I was wrong. Please forgive me.
You did a good job.
I’d like to hear your opinion. (What is your opinion?)
Can I help you?
Thank you?
“You or I.” Original author: Unknown
The more we say these words throughout our lives, the healthier, happier we become, and the smoother our interpersonal relationships become.
How important is it to ask for and receive forgiveness when we make a mistake?
How good is it to encourage and praise others for their good deeds?
How good is it to have a life attitude of listening to others, learning from them, and improving rather than insisting on our own opinions and claiming we are the best in the world?
How good is it to be someone who sacrifices for others rather than someone who thinks only about living well, comfortably, and happily?
How good is it to be someone who is grateful not only for small things and all things, but also for the smallest and most insignificant things others do for us.
How good is it to never forget the kindness of our parents and siblings and to live with a grateful heart? It’s great to have a grateful community, but how wonderful it would be to raise children who always respond with words and writing.
How wonderful it would be to live in interpersonal relationships where the word “I” is minimized and “you” is respected.
How wonderful it would be if children and adults spoke these words more often and lived by them.
Readers!
How about teaching your children to speak these words more often in their daily lives?
Greeting others regularly, and even on special occasions, will brighten the path to success.
John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP