6.The degree to which children are happy and stable depends on how happy and stable in the marriage life of the children’s mom and dad is. Marital happiness of parents positively influences their children’s happiness.
6. 자녀가 행복하고 안정적인 정도는 자녀의 엄마, 아빠의 결혼 생활이 얼마나 행복하고 안정적인가에 달려 있습니다. 부모의 결혼생활 행복은 자녀의 행복에 긍정적인 영향을 미칩니다….43
The basic conditions necessary for raising stable and happy children are food, clothing, shelter, health, and love. In addition, the marriage between their mother and father must be happy, harmonious, and stable.
The children of such mothers and fathers who have a smooth and happy marriage grow happier.
If the home of the growing children is not stable, their children are not truly loved by their parents.
In order for the family to be smooth and stable, the marriage of their mothers and fathers must be stable.
This is a very basic condition for children’s happiness.
That comes first.
The family can be stable and comfortable only when the relationship between their mother and father is stable, harmonious, and amicable.
The most important prerequisite is for establishing a stable, harmonious, and amicable marital relationship between the mother and father, and then their mother and father lead the family with a lot of unconditional true love.
Their Mom and Dad must have a lot of unconditional true love for each other.
Then, Their mom and dad will be friendly and able to maintain a smooth relationship.
What is unconditional love in a marital relationship?
Unconditional love is ideal love.
It is impossible for a couple to achieve 100% unconditional true love with each other.
It is to be more close enough that the couple lives in marriage while truly loving each other without conditions.
Then their mom and dad’s marriage life will be smooth and happy.
Children who grow up under such a mother and father will naturally grow happily.
Children who grow up happily love themselves and know how to love others.
Whatever they do, they will do their best.
Only when children grow up under the parents of a happy and affable mother and father their children feel that they grow up with full love from their mother and father.
However, children grow up with sound healthy self-esteem and pride.
They can sympathize with young children, respect the elderly, and love the poor and the weak.
They know how to discern right and wrong.
Naturally, they are loved by their parents and loved by other people.
How happy are these children?
Money cannot buy such happy children.
Of course, They can’t buy it with money.
In today’s turbulent and complex society, it is virtually very difficult to show children that mothers and fathers are living in a smooth and intimate marital relationship with each other by making a lot of unconditional and genuine love for each other.
Photo 6. Mom and Dad! I love my mom and dad like a high mountain and as much as the wide ocean
Copyright ⓒ 2016John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP
However, mom and dad must strive to have an unconditional, true loving couple.
In other words, you need to show your children that the marital relationship between the mom and the dad is smooth and that the two live happily.
Only then will children grow up happily and stably.
The mom and dad must have a lot of true love for each other on that day.
As Corinthians 13:4~7 Unconditional Love, You cannot love 100% as it is, but you must love one another without conditions.
So you have to show your children how to truly love without condition.
Children also feel happy and grow up and develop joyfully, knowing that their parents truly love them unconditionally.
You must also teach children how to live gentle, good, polite, modest, and humble. Those who live that way truly love others.
Young children don’t have much because they are young.
After birth, young children often learn primarily a lot from their mothers and fathers.
They don’t have so much what they see, hear, and learn in their short world life.
What they see, hear, and learn in this short world, they reflect back to their parents and people in this world.
Children who are raised with unconditional love from their parents bring unconditional love to their parents.
Just as they received, they offer “unconditional love” to the world as well.
Children who have learned to love conditionally from their parents also love their parents or people of this world conditionally.
Even if mothers and fathers have provided their children with abundant food and healthy love, their children do not feel that they are unconditionally truly loved by their parents unless their marital relationship is smooth and they are not happy.
As already explained, unconditional love between a mother and a father is ideal.
However, mam and Dad must love to be close 100% to that unconditional love.
Also, Parents must do their best to give unconditional love to their children.
Unfortunately, divorce rates for couples in the United States these days are around 30-40%.
They are said to be almost the same or even more in the motherland of Korea. In addition, parents live separate lives due to various complex problems such as personal problems.
There are many children who grow up under a single mother due to the death of a mother or father.
For these and other reasons, many children are unable to grow up under the parents of the mothers and the fathers, and their families, which are the foundation and basic condition of their lives, are shattered or fluctuated.
There are so many children these days who grow up without the love and care of their natural mothers and fathers, just as a baby bird in a nest that still cannot fly into the air on its own has lost their mom and da jus like baby birds.
The material side of life is so richer and has so much but there is nothing more than a few decades ago.
There are many teenage children who wander after running away from home without purpose under their parents.
Some of them are also entangled in a collective snare of heretics who are only open to self-interest.
You can predict what kind of problems will come to them and what will happen to them in the future.
The quality and quantity of love between mothers and fathers is directly linked to the quality and quantity of love between parents and children.
“Parents should also be at least a half doctor(부모도 반의사가 되어야 한다).” Here and there are repeated explanations of “how to truly love your children”.
Because it is of paramount importance to love and raise your children properly and truly.
Here again, I will talk about specific ways of how parents truly love their children unconditionally.
I’ve heard something like this.
I asked their adolescent children, “Do you think you are truly loved by your parents without condition?”
“Yes, I am.” Only 5% of adolescent children answered.
When I asked their parents, “Are you truly unconditionally loving your children?” I asked a question.
95% of them said, “I love our children without the condition.”
Why did we get the answer to this result?
There are many reasons for this, but it is because parents’ love for their children was not well communicated to their adolescent children because they did not know how to truly love their children.
What a sad relationship between parents and adolescent children are.
Here, mothers and fathers must learn how to love their children so that the love of their children is fully conveyed to their adolescent children.
Almost all parents love their children with eye contact love, physical contact love, focused attention love, and care, train their children with love, and nurture their children well, but do not know how to effectively communicate parental love to their children.
Also, they don’t even know how important “real love without conditions” is when they love their children.
Photo 7. Parents must love their children unconditionally so that they love others unconditionally, establish good interpersonal relationships, do their best in this world, and live with a lot of sound healthy pride. Copyright ⓒ 2016 John Sangwon Lee, MD., FAAP