Sex education for children and adolescents 아동·청소년 (소아청소년)성교육
Until the past few decades, almost all parents wished that their children and adolescents would become productive members of society.
They taught ethics and morality as the basis for their growth.
Children studied hard to become a productive social member who had both cognitive education and physical education accordingly.
But Parents were unwilling to teach knowledge about sex and they didn’t think young children should learn, and of course, some parents didn’t teach at all.
And also children and adolescents themselves have not been educated or studied about sex in some.
Parents thought that when children grow up, they naturally know the right sex values and they can properly live in the opposite sex.
There was no such thing as wrong.
We are knowing that it is natural to die from cancer or from getting sick from the infectious disease without vaccination in old time.
How about nowadays?
The topic of sex almost routinely appears as one of the main news topics in Local daily Newspapers, TV, radio, the Internet, iPad, movies, magazines, and others.
In today’s cyber world, topics related to sex are no longer limited to the adult age group. Even young children can access information about sex indiscriminately through the media without being so difficult.
There are plenty of opportunities to see almost naked photos, and even at the world women’s pageant and at the Olympic Games, you can see the almost naked body.
A toddler in kindergarten says, “Sex is cool,” without knowing what that is.
Adolescent children also have a lot of knowledge about sex. The problem is that they seem to have a lot of right knowledge, but they don’t.
This is also easy for us to understand.
Today, many adolescent children learn about sex on their own through various media such as TV, newspapers, magazines, the internet, and other sources.
They also learn a lot about sex from their peers.
Today, most adolescent children formally learn sexual knowledge through regular home pediatric sex education or regular school pediatric sex education. (Here, pediatric sex education is used in combination with the term Adolescent children’s sex education)
Compared to adolescent children who did not receive formal pediatric sex education at home or school, adolescent children who received formal pediatric sex education at school or at home have much more pronounced sexual values and notions.
The majority of adolescent children who do not receive formal pediatric sex education at home or school tend to have sex with multiple sexual partners during early puberty, and teen pregnancy rates are said to be much higher for them.
They are also more susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases and have unhealthy sex values.
For one reason or another, most parents and the American Academy of Pediatrics strongly recommend that adolescent children should be given formal pediatric sex education.
I believe that it is essential to teach adolescent children who are active in sexual life how to use contraception to prevent pregnancy, to teach how to prevent sexually transmitted diseases from contracted from sexual activities, and to educate children about correct sexual knowledge and sexual values.
It is also very important to prevent unwanted teenage pregnancy through pediatric sex education.
Sexual values and correct sexual notions are different for each individual, religion, society, and culture.
Curiosity and knowledge about sex vary with the age of adolescent children and continue to change with their maturity.
Figure 98. The heterosexual relations of adolescent girls aged 15-19 years.
The study found that before the age of 15 years old, adolescent girls had oral sex and vaginal sex in 25%, vaginal sex only in 26%, and oral sex only in 8%. Source-2002 US CDC Report
However, many people view pediatric sex education negatively for the following reasons.
There are sometimes theories about teaching sex education to children.
Some argue that sex is privacy, and privacy should be treated as a matter of individual privacy.
There is nothing wrong with this.
Some parents believe that premarital heterosexual relationships should be taboo.
There are good reasons for that too.
For that reason, it is natural to come to the conclusion that pediatric sex education cannot be handled uniformly.
Some parents believe that it is good for their children to begin pediatric sex education a year or two before puberty begins.
However, it is a general opinion that it is too late when it comes to the most appropriate age to start pediatric sex education.
Infants aged 2, 3, and 4 years old know that the structure of the male and female body, especially the external genitalia is different.
They ask where the baby comes from, and they know that the male and female external genitals look mysterious.
Whether or not infants are curious about sex and ask questions, it is good to start with appropriate and correct pediatric sex education according to their age and ability to understand.
Many parents say they don’t give their children sex education for children, but parents don’t really know about pediatric sex education since infancy.
When parents and children live in the same home, it’s good to give children sexual education appropriately for their age.
For example, the name of each part of the external genitalia of men and women is taught in standard languages, such as teaching infants and children the names of each part of the body such as the eyes, the nose, and the mouth in standard language.
In a cyber world where men and women can see naked men and women in a medium every day, sex education should not be given to children by using words such as “inner thing”, “chili”, and “it” on the external genitalia.
For example, the names of each part of the external genitalia of a woman or man-penis, volva, scrotum, breasts, etc. should be taught in standard language. This is also part of pediatric sex education.
When your children’s questions about sex are inappropriate or unfamiliar and cannot be answered quickly, do not avoid answering them right away, nor do they answer them incorrectly.
However, whether you can say that “I cannot answer the question because it is inappropriate, or that I will answer it after more study”, you must answer it clearly and seriously.
In addition, instead of answering by yourself, you have to answer clearly, such as asking someone else to answer.
By avoiding answers when children ask questions, they can admit that my parents don’t like us to ask questions about sex, and they no longer ask about sex, even if their children have serious sex issues.
When asked about sex, parents can be uncomfortable and sometimes embarrassing.
Nevertheless, answer each of your child’s questions politely, kindly, and simply and clearly.
You should also give them the opportunity to ask questions again.
Do not cover topics of pediatric sex education that are inappropriate and difficult to understand for your children’s age.
And if you do too many children’s sex education at once, they can’t understand them all.
Sometimes, to determine the level of sexual knowledge, pediatric sex education can be provided by parents asking questions directly to them.
Children should be trained not to see, hear, and learn by themselves without parental permission on TV, magazines, radio, and the Internet, such as on TV, and the Internet, about sex-related information that betrays parents’ gender values, violates ethical morals and has no value in child sex education.
Suppose a parent and a child accidentally watch a TV program about AIDS together.
These opportunities can be used to make children age-appropriate pediatric sex education about AIDS. In addition, sexual education can be provided for infectious sexually transmitted diseases other than AIDS.
These days, pediatric sex education is usually provided to students through regular education courses in elementary, middle, and high schools in the United States. However, it is also important to find out how much sex knowledge children have learned and known through the school sex education process.
If necessary, more necessary pedophile sexual knowledge should be learned through regular home pediatric sex education.
When infants aged 3, 4, and 5 years old ask where the baby came from, do not falsely answer that the baby came out in a way that is not true, whether the big stork brought the baby from the mountain, or that it came from the mother’s belly button. The answer should be brief and clear that the baby grew inside the womb of the mother and came out through the vaginal cavity or vaginal birth canal of the mother.
Most of the infants of this age group know some of the differences in the external genitalia of the opposite sexes. However, the egg and sperm meet in the fallopian tube and become a fertilized egg. The fertilized egg implants on the inner wall of the uterus to form a fetus, and the fetus grows in the uterus and is born through the mother’s vaginal birth canal.
They are curious about the external genitalia of the opposite sex and even want to see and touch it. At this time, if infants ask questions about their external genitalia, other people’s external genitalia, or sex, they should answer simply and clearly.
During proper parenting of the children’s eye contact love and physical contact love, neither my child nor another child should not have more physical contact than necessary.
Aside from being properly examined by a doctor, anyone should not make inappropriate contact with the child’s external genitalia or any other part of the body. This is also pediatric sex education.
Don’t let anyone kiss or hug.
Children should give also to educate anyone who should not touch them with inappropriate physical contact.
It is normal for growing children to have some curiosity about sex.
But it teaches them that the other sex matter is very personal privacy.
Educate children that they should not speak or ask questions about their own or their parents’ sex anytime or anywhere. The same goes for adults. This is the right gender notion of civilized society.
When brothers and sisters aged 2, 3, and 4 years old bathe together, they see and learn the differences between the external genitalia of males and females.
The process by which a mother gives birth or a dog or a cat gives birth to a baby can explain how a woman conceives and gives birth to a baby.
His mother has the infant’s hands to place on the pregnant his mother’s tummy, and the infant baby can be taught how to grow in the mother’s womb, exercise, and play by detecting the birth.
The external genitalia is a very personal part of the body, so it is said that you should dress invisibly
It teaches that you can see someone’s external genitalia accidentally, but you shouldn’t look at it carefully and that you shouldn’t deliberately show your external genitalia to anyone.
It educates them that if their peers accidentally expose their external genitalia, they can’t do it, and that anyone exposing their external genitalia is rude and inappropriate, and that they shouldn’t do that.
When young infants take off their clothes, see each other, touch each other, and play with their genitals, stop immediately when they engage in “sex play”.
Give them time-out training or isolate them from playing with them anymore.
At home, the behavior of young children to show naked in front of their parents, siblings, and children are treated differently in different families.
From the age of 4 to 5 years old, it is not a big problem for same-sex brothers, father-sons or mother and daughter to appear naked when bathing together.
Regardless of the reason, they are educated to teach that it is inappropriate to take off their clothes and wear clothes after the age of 4-5 years old, whether naked in front of opposite-sex brothers and sisters or opposite-sex parents. Of course, after the age of 4-5, naked and opposite-sex parents should not take a bath.
Before puberty begins, most of the 6 to 8-year-old school children know their gender and can identify the men and the women.
They know that babies grow in the mother’s womb and are born through the mother’s vaginal cavity. They also know that sexual intercourse can lead to pregnancy.
She feels ashamed when she shows her naked body to others. The tendency to play and act with same-sex children becomes more pronounced.
For them, the names and functions of each part of the genital organs of the men and the women, what is puberty, when it comes to age, why puberty comes, what is menstruation and why, what is sexual intercourse, and how to become pregnant, correct sex values, sex. It is necessary to educate notions, the effect of heterosexual relationships on social, emotional, and mental problems related to sexual intercourse, methods of contraception, and prevention of infectious sexually transmitted diseases.
When you can date, kiss, or have intercourse, how to refuse when a heterosexual friend asks you to have intercourse, what will happen if you have sex, and why if you don’t agree with premarital sex? Explain to your children.
Most of the early adolescent children aged 8, 9, and 10 years old know menstruation, fertilization, sexual intercourse, and the names and functions of each part of the male and female genitalia much better than before.
Knowing that a man’s cock (penis) is inserted into a woman’s vaginal cavity and intercourse, a man ejaculates semen into the vaginal cavity during intercourse. One of the billion sperms in the semen meets an ovum from the women’s ovary and they become the fertilized egg which grows up to and knows that the baby is born into this world through the vaginal birth canal of a woman.
At this time, most girls have puberty and some of them have their first menstruation.
It teaches that you can take off your clothes and play naked in front of same-sex peers, but not in front of opposite sexes.
At this time, when adolescents ask about sex, they must answer the truth accurately.
During pediatric sex education, parents and adolescent children may feel uncomfortable while embarrassing each other.
For that reason, some adolescent children do not like to receive pediatric sex education from their own parents.
If parents cannot provide pediatric sex education to their children, they can ask teachers or pediatricians for pediatric sex education, or use a pediatric sex education reference book that can be easily read by parents and children.
Of course, not all parents themselves can provide formal pediatric sex education to their children.
Parents often need to learn and prepare for pediatric sex education before starting pedophile sex education with their children.
Depending on the child, puberty comes months or years early or late, and when puberty comes, the emotions of the male and female adolescent children also change the height and weight increase rapidly.
Girls’ breasts, vulva, and buttocks are remarkably enlarged, pubic hair is formed, and normal physiological discharge from the vagina is produced.
It is taught that boys’ penis, testicles, and seminal vesicles are enlarged, pubic hair, whiskers, and acne appear, and that they sleep and masturbate normally.
Teach adolescents that sexual intercourse can lead to pregnancy and infectious sexually transmitted diseases.
Therefore, it also teaches how to use contraception and prevent infectious sexually transmitted diseases.
At this time, the sexual impulse can arise when male and female adolescent children have physical contact, and when sexual impulses arise, they are also taught how to deal with them.
Parents, children, and others should respect each other’s privacy, and each family establishes and teaches the family nudity rules of their families to follow those rules.
It is taught that infants, children of school-age before and after puberty, and adults also feel good when they touch or stimulate their external genitalia by themselves, and they can also masturbate.
Whether they do not masturbate at all, much or less, they teach that they are harmless to health, but parents should teach them not to masturbate in front of others.
If parents think masturbation is bad, they should clearly explain to their children why.
If a young child asks parents about their parent’s sex life or privacy, children have children’s privacy, and the parents have parental privacy.
Because of this, it is rude to ask about the sex life or privacy of yourself, your parents, or others, and cut out that I cannot tell you all of my privacy. Some adolescent children manipulate and coerce them by making them feel guilty so that their peers experience the same relationship as they did with the opposite sex, drinking, smoking, and addictive substance abuse.
Peers who do not give in are often isolated and bullied in their society. Teach them to be careful not to succumb to their maneuvering and pressure, and to continue to grow up with the right gender values.
It is taught that sexual intercourse can lead to sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, and AIDS and more that it can lead to severe illness or even death.
It teaches that the best way to prevent contagious sexually transmitted diseases is to have good sex values and to be taboo.
Sexual intercourse with condoms can prevent some contagious sexually transmitted diseases, but it cannot be completely prevented.
There are various types of contraceptives such as oral, injectable, and subcutaneous injection, and pediatric sex education is provided on the use and efficacy of contraceptives and condoms, and other methods of contraception.
Contraceptive pills can be almost 100% contraceptive effective if used correctly, but sexually transmitted diseases cannot be prevented.
It is educated that using condoms during intercourse and it can prevent contagious sexually transmitted infections to some extent, but using condoms and contraceptives together can provide almost 100% contraception and prevent infectious STDs almost 100%.
Children who view premarital sex negatively should be taught how to contracept and prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
Teach them to be careful not to be raped by friends, acquaintances, neighbors or strangers.
How to prevent rape, how to clearly say that you will opposite to have sex when you are forced to engage in a heterosexual relationship, drinking while dating or using habitual drugs makes it easier to suffer dating violence or dating rape, and emergency contraception that is used as emergency contraception when raped educate that there is a way.
Teach some adolescent children that they can temporarily fall in love with a same-sex, opposite-sex, or the teacher.
Usually, this is normal, and it also teaches homosexuality, heterosexuality, and bisexuality.
When giving regular pediatric sex education to children at home or at school, they can giggle and laugh and get them sexual urges.
It can even be mistaken for being an impulse to have sex.
Some adolescent children can be embarrassed by blushing and embarrassing just hearing the word sex.
Sexuality issues belong to personal privacy to the last, and they sometimes take the attitude of parents that no one can tamper with my sex.
Adolescent children also have privacy about their own sex.
However, it is the responsibility of parents to properly discipline and guide their growing children and educate them that they have a duty to accept it.
As if parents own their children, parents should not conduct formal pedophile sexual education with thatl parents completely ignore their children’s rights, gender values or opinions.
Sexual education for adolescent children is also naturally conducted in a way that parents and children exchange sex knowledge, just as parents normally communicate with their children, and it is recommended to recognize the correct sexual values of children and to keep them.
Some adolescent children accept their parents’ good sexual values, while others may not accept their parents’ sexual values purely.
Still, adolescent children keep their parents’ pediatric sex education deep in their hearts, and later they solve the sex problem by recalling the sex education given by their parents in their lives.
For adolescent children who need their parental love more than ever, parents need to make sure they are waiting in a position to meet and discuss with them at any time and to guide, and help them.
A thirteen-year-old teenage mother who was not wed and is walking down the street with their newborn baby after giving birth, break our hearts.
That’s all!
It is also unfortunate when treating those suffering from dying from infectious sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, and AIDS.
These kinds of problems are fortunately a downward trend in the United States these days.
Whether you agree or disagree, it is a common opinion today that growing adolescent children must be given pediatric sex education.
There are so many references for pediatric sex education that parents and children can easily read to fill a corner of American bookstores.
Some of them have more than 100 pages.
It would be a good idea to regularly provide pediatric sex education to children and adolescents (ages 0-18 year old) at home using these different types of books on pediatric sex education.
The following is an example of a question-and-answer on health counseling for children and adolescents on the Internet about “sex education for children aged 3-5 years old, what to do in this case”.
Q&A. Sexual education for children aged 3 to 5-years-old, what to do in this case
Hi Sir.
I am a mother with a 5-years-old boy and a 3-years-old girl.
Nowadays, my older child is taking a bath or playing, touching a pepper (penis), or even taking a bath, touching a pepper and playing, showing it to his younger sister, or seeing his penis.
It is said that these behaviors of children are natural, but from a mother’s point of view, how to deal with it is difficult. I am not sure what to explain to my child in touch a case.
Dear Lee Cheong
Hello. Thanks for the great question.
Boys and girls aged 3 to 5 years old know the differences in the body of the men and the women, especially the external genitalia, and take a lot of interest in the bodies of themselves or other children or adults.
Also, since it feels good to touch one’s external genitalia, he often touches it and sometimes masturbates.
This is normal.
It is inappropriate for boys or girls from the age of 4-5 years old to bathe together with the opposite sex.
Therefore, they should not have a bath together.
Instead of teaching each part of the external genitalia as “chili”, “jamji”, or “it”, children should have sex education in children using the correct standard language such as penis or vulva and so on.
The external genitalia, such as the penis is very personal privacy and should not be shown to others, nor should it be taught that it is not allowed to secretly or deliberately see the external genitalia.
No one, except when parents give a bath or change clothes, or when health care is required, that the parent can see or properly touch the child’s external genitalia and that the doctor properly touches the external genitalia during the examination. You must teach them not to let them touch or show them.